This is going to be SO controversial .... Gift List Issues

Personally, I think that is fine. You've worded it really well.

It's better to say it than have people waste money on things you don't need.

Seems fine - very similar to what other people have put.

My only comment would be (as this is just cos i'm a bit funny about this subject) is I feel that kind of wording is contradictory. You say they don't need to buy you a present and then state exactly what it is you want (money). In theory, everyone does this so its not different - it's just one of my little issues ?

I've been to a wedding where they asked for money towards honeymoon so no difference. At least you're telling people what it is you're doing with the money.

Gift vouchers would be another alterntaive for you to buy things needed when you know what...

I think your wording is absolutely perfect.. not offensive and very clear.

People who know you probably already aware of your situation and this is absolutely fine. Money requests wont offend.

Mine is 2nd marriage for both of us, and i moved out of mine into his and we just had duplicate of everything (his.. much better ) but we are going to ask for money or something towards our honeymoon as gifts.

I would just send it to the printers xxx

Sounds o.k to me, Could always use a money poem lol x

What's a Money poem?? Never heard of that...

"We've had the bash - now give us your cash? It's the end of the night - so don't be tight?" :-)

Maybe not...... :-)

Sounds fine to me. There is definitely no need for a money poem!

You're not far off with that poem! They're very similar!

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I might just use it ?

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Sounds fine to me... if anyone has a problem with giving cash it won't matter what you say! Go for it!

I never understand quite why people get so worked up about this subject. If you get an invite you think is rude or dont like giving money, then dont. DOn't see the problem!!!

What you've put is absolutely fine!!!

We have organised a small JOhn Lewis gift list of nice additions for the house at John Lewis as we were met by resistance from older relatives when we said we'd be asking for money.

SO we've put 'As we've been living together for quite a few years now we don't have many things we need for our home. However, if you would life to get us a gift we have set up a small list of things we'd love at John Lewis. Alternatively a contribution to our honeymoon would be very much appreciated'

Guests can like it or lump it, as long as they still come as we obviously want them all with us! I have relatives who want to buy things and lots of friends who'd rather just write a cheque so have covered all the bases!!

I think that sounds fine x

I think that seems fine.

Me and my OH are in the same position - both have our own places at the moment.

I said something like "as you know, we currently have our own houses so have pretty much of 2 of everything so we are not looking for gifts. If you do want to get us something then a contribution towards the honeymoon would be appreciated or vouchers for Next, etc etc so that we can buy something for our new home when we get it. However if you see something that you think that we would really like then that would be much appreciated as well.

Obviously we never put all of that on the invitations - it went on our website.

Mine said:

S & B have already set up home together and having you at their wedding is a gift in itself. However, should you wish to give them a present, they are requesting money towards the renovations they would like to carry to their home.

You're a genius! That's brilliant.

In all seriousness I think your wording is fine - we've gone for something similar.

That's the sort of thing we'll be using too.

Obviously i'm grateful for whatever people do buy us but i'm quite fussy so would rather have the money so we can go out and pick it ourselves, lol! xx

We're using a money poem as like u we have two everything already and would really like the money for our honeymoon. I know money poems haven't gone done well on here but my family seemed to like it.

Might need a little gift list as grandparents are not liking the idea of giving us money!

If there are a few people that you know are going to funny about it, then you could make one very small list somewhere. even you just put on it stuff you would need for your honeymoon...cases, towels, and one or 2 things for home that you mite like. that way you can say that you are sorry there is such a small list as at the minute there is not many things that you have a great need for, but that money or giftvouchers for things that you would like when you get your big place together, that that would be a great alternative.

We used a money poem but I wrote it myself and people liked it!

I don't have issues with people asking for vouchers or money towards a honeymoon but I don't like the outright asking for money. We ideally wanted money as like you had everything we wanted for the house in terms of small things. We didn't put any gift list, money wish or anything in our invitations and we mainly got vouchers or cash which we have spent on new windows, doors, garden etc etc.

I feel that if you really don't want presents as the presence of guests is more important then you just shouldn't mention gifts at all. People will ask you or give you money anyway.

Me and my OH are in a similar position we have just sold our home and are renting off OHs parents untill we find our new home .... the honeymoon is being paid for by OH as a suprise and we have a lot of stuff given by the family over the last couple of christmas's for our new home as we have been trying to sell for 2 years. So we have asked for contributions towards furnishing our new home this is the wording we have put on the invites

Wedding list

Please do not feel obliged to buy a gift – we’ll just be pleased to see you!

We have been living together for a while and as I’m sure most of you will know we are currently looking for our new home and so contributions towards furnishing our new house would be greatly appreciated.

A bank account has been set up for this purpose ***

Sorry, I'm with purrfectgems on this one. I don't think it's right to mention money, vouchers or giftlists etc on invitations. If someone asks verbally then fair enough, they obviously want to know what you want and feel financially secure enough to ask, but some people will truly not be able to give much and would feel embarrassed sticking a fiver in a card. Whereas with a gift you can easily buy a five pound vase/trinket/bottle of wine and not feel too ashamed.

I know giving twenty quid might not seem too much of a stretch to us brides (and lets face it if we can afford a wedding we must be doing ok ish financially) but to older people on a state pension or someone whose OH has been made redundant gifting someone £20 might be too much. I feel more comfortable saying nothing and being grateful for whatever we get.

I think asking for money is fine, and people prefer to know what you want as it save them time and effort.

The way that has been worded sounds much better. I think asking for vouchers so the couple can put it to a certain thing like furniture is the same as asking for a range of items on a gift list.

I just don't like the whole 'we don't want a gift but give us money'.

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