Those with children...

Err, yeah I personally would be, especially if that was how it was worded ie "a son who I really don't need as I'm already using my nephews who are the same age as him"

Why not ask them both?? Just because you don't "need" doesn't mean it wouldn't be nice?! Alternatively, ask neither of them!

We're having only one of several people's children in our wedding party. The reason is because some of the others are way too young (under 2) and the three we're involving are our god children so that explains why them and not their siblings if that makes sense?

I think the key is explaining why you're only involving one sibling and I'm not sure 'not needing' them is the best reason. Personally I don't think children are necessarily needed at all in a wedding party, they don't do very much except walk down the aisle nicely (hopefully!!)

I would think it was a bit mean and would likely say no to one being involved without the other. I don't know how old the children you are talking about are but my 5 yo son would be quite confused if his sister was included and he wasn't and I wouldn't want him to be upset or have to try to explain the situation.

I wouldn't be overly happy if one child was included, but not the other, plus it will probably be quite upsetting for the little boy who has been left out. Or could you give him another role elsewhere - junior usher (no idea how old he is)

Is it a case of balance or money? Maybe parents could help towards the cost of things like shoes so that they can all be involved?

I wouldn't be offended but whichever of my sons was left out would probably be upset. Don't think it's a wise move tbh.

This is what I was thinking. If the one you are not asking is old enough to understand then he might wonder why you didn't want him.

Thanks everyone.... I'm just not going to ask and will leave it at that!

I'm not going to ask for her son just for the sake of it... I don't need a 3rd boy and I'm not too sure he would care or even understand (he is 5) but to save causing upset I'm just going to leave it as is.

No i don't think so, if there is a reason why you want to ask one (as opposed to why you don't want the other!). I asked my cousins daughter to be bridesmaid as it is my godmothers only grandaughter and also i was her mothers bridesmaid when i was younger! I thought it would be nice to have her but didn't ask her son to be part of the wedding party. I think its how you ask!