Hello everyone
I really thought I had this sorted but now I'm not so sure and I'm just going round in circles. OH isn't any help at the moment so need some advice.
We were going to register a Trailfinders gift list which is who we are intending to book our honeymoon with, we've been together 7 years so this was our alternative to a normal gift list, plus it will be OH's 40th birthday when we are away so it just seemed appropriate for us as it will be a double celebration. I then started to wonder if it was a bit impersonal for some people and so I thought about putting together a very small Amazon gift list as well for people who request it, because some people might not like giving cash gifts.
Then I came across The Bottom Drawer website where you can make a bespoke gift list (for a fee of £89) you can make gift lists more personal by attributing certain amounts of money towards whatever you like and add your own pics and text and set the cost and quantities to whatever you like. You can still add the odd household item or a charity donation as well honeymoon excursions and activities all on the same list without going through particular stores or websites. Ultimately it's a cash gift but I thought it would be nicer if people were contributing to something specific on our honeymoon.
Then this morning I came across an article online where quite a few people were offended that couples had asked for contributions towards their honeymoons. A few were particularly offended that people had attributed a cost towards specific things like a boat trip or massage etc. What is the general feeling regarding honeyfunds, if you were wanting to give a gift would you be happy paying a sum into a Trailfinders account or would you rather know that your money went towards something specific? Would you be offended if someone had put 'Massage for £50' or 'Cocktails for 2 for £15' on their lists?
I have also heard that putting gift details on the invites is bad manners, this is what I'm intending to do but mainly for practical purposes so that all the information that people will need is in one document and not on separate little bits of card and paper that can get lost. I work in communication design so I'm probably seeing this from a different perspective, is it bad manners or just common sense?
So the question is, should I have just the Trailfinders list on it's own, have Trailfinders list and an additional Amazon list if requested by guests, go for one list option at The Bottom Drawer which has everything on it or just mention on the invites that if people wanted to send us a give to get in contact with us and we'll send them the details?
I know whatever we do is not going to please everyone but I'm really trying! It's a tough one.
Any help greatly appreciated
Colyflower
If anyone is interested in the wording I have on the invite at the moment, here it is below:
We’ve been together for a while and have most things we need, for
those of you who would like to send us a gift, a contribution towards our
honeymoon would be greatly appreciated...but please don’t feel obliged!
A gift list is held with Trailfinders under XXXX or XXXX
www.trailfinders.com/giftlist or call 020 7408 9002
Ref: XXXXXXX Closing date: XXXXXXX
Alternatively, we have a small gift list with Amazon,
please contact us if you would us to send you the details.
