Thursday wedding advice

My cousin had a Thursday wedding that mu Mum went to, and she said it was lovely!

I think if people have enough notice i.e. you send your invites or save the dates in good time it shouldn't be too much of a problem.

Have you considered where your guests are travelling from? is it far from town/city where most people will be travelling from? if so you might wish to consider organising a coach to take people back at x time that way most people will stay until x time. (I have no idea how much it is to hire a coach but may still work out cheaper then the extra cost of weekend wedding)

I haven't ever been tp a Thursday wedding but wouldn't be put off if a friend invited me on a Thur. I think that you may find that the people who are close to you both (the ones you really want there!) will come and extende family etc may not. I reckon that it is your day and you are doing it the way that you want and that suits your budget- you shouldn't appologise for that. As soon as you do appologise people tend to take advantage of that.

We are having our seremony at 5pm on friday evening and I realise that in some cases this is a long way to come for a short wedding- it was however what we wanted and what suits our budget. As a compromise we are meeting the following day in our local pub for lunch and to extend the festivities! Could you suggest something on the friday?- brunch/ walk/ picnic etc?

Could you maybe go for an off peak month and go for a Friday/Saturday in low season instead? October-April are often much cheaper than Summer months. I went to a Wednesday wedding last August and it wasn't great really - but to be honest this wasn't really because it was a Wednesday it all just felt rushed and a bit slap dash, the whole wedding was arranged in about six weeks and you could tell. It felt a bit like the bride and groom had gone all out on the venue and then hadn't been able to afford the little treats and luxuries that make guests feel welcome - not one drink provided, no canapes, no decor, no favours, no personal touches. I can't help but think it would have been nicer in a village hall with lots of personal touches that really expressed them as a couple. I'm sure this won't be the case with your wedding, but have you considered choosing a different venue? I guess you could make a list of the top five most important things to you and your partner about your wedding, put them in order of importance and plan your day accordingly. If a beautiful venue is number one then stick with your plans, if ensuring a party atmosphere and boogying into the night is number one you may want to consider other options.

I went to a Tuesday wedding last year, as a guest I was given plenty of notice so I was able to take the following day off and arrange transport etc.... I think as long as you give people plenty of time and plent of taxi/hotel options they will be fine.

Thanks so much for all the advice - I really really appreciate it and glad I posted! We cant have another month as I teach and have other commitments already in other school hols at work. That particular venue is really important to us (just shame it's so expensive!). By having the Thursday I could afford all the personal touches and treating our guests that I cant afford on a weekend. I love the idea of hiring the coach - most guests are local but some will be staying in a hotel and at least we could remove an additional inconvenience. Also organising drinks or something on the Fri is a great idea. Thanks again

Thursday wedding can rock as much as weekend ones. To be honest its more about whos there. A good Dj or even better a band get get things swinging. We got married abroad but if I had done it in the UK I would do it off peak and take advantage of off peak offers. Happy planning let us know how you get on..

Laura B x

I wouldn't hve a problem with a Thursday wedding. I am sure if you give plenty of notice most guests will take 2 days off and treat it as a long weekend. Do what is right for you.

I'm having a Weekday wedding too. Saving about £4000 on the venue. Not only that but find I'm saving money on other things - getting the band half price, haggling discounts on TOG, caterers etc! So I'm getting a wedding I could never afford on a weekend. I let everyone know the date as soon as I booked, about to send my save the dates out with a year to go. I have booked it in a school holiday so children can come too. Same as you I'm having worries but I'm finding people are taking a couple of days holiday as I've given them plenty of notice.

My brother got married on a wednesday, some people did leave early evening (mostly the older people) but the majority of their friends partied late with them!

Weekday weddings have become more and more popular, both for personal reasons to the couple and the added bonus of better costings. I have worked on weddings on every day of the week and although you may have a handful of guests who might not be able to make it due to work commitments, the key members of the family do. Main thing is to post your date as early as possible so that all your guests know as soon as possible.

Hope it works out...and I am wondering which venue you have selected.....<nosey icon>

Peter

Thanks again for the advice...think I will stick to the Thursday! We are getting married in 18 months time and most ppl know the date already so they have plenty of time! Fingers crossed it all works out!

I get married a week on Thursday and I think almost everyone has booked the Friday off. As long as you tell people long enough in advacne you shouldn't have a problem Probably the only ones that might have an issue is any teachers you invite, but you can't suit everyone.

Good luck with your wedding chocolate e!! Let me know how it all goes!

I am Having a Thursday wedding and i posted something similar to this when i first booked mine and all the lovely people on here reassured me it would be fine and i have sent all my invites out and had lots back and have all said it is a nice change and that they have just booked the 2 days off work. A lot of people have booked hotels too so they can make a few days of it. If they want to be there they won't mind taking the day off for it. I have found that venues are more relaxed and easy going with there not being a big demand for the Thursday as it is business on a day they wouldn't have usually got it. Good luck hun and enjoy your planning it.

Thanks Bridal Butterfly! Really reassuring to hear you got lots of positive RSVPs as that was my main concern!! Good luck with the planning xxx

I would have a bit of a problem with a Thursday wedding because I would obviously want to take the Friday off as well to ensure I could party hard but I'm self-employed so taking two days off (and potentially having to turn down a long trial to accommodate a wedding) would make it a bit trickier for me. That's just another perspective for you to consider in terms of people booking annual leave, but I'm sure most people will take two days off and treat it as they would any other wedding. It's about what works for you as a couple and if it's your dream venue you should go for it.

We are a Thursday wedding due to cost but picked IMO the best Thursday in the year- Maundy Thursday as most people have the Friday off work due to it being a bank holiday. We didn't receive any no's to our invites.

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I would have no problem with a Thursday wedding!

Ours is on a friday, I originally wanted Saturday but couldn't fit it around the football ?

Anyway, when I weighed it up, out of 70 day guests, only my fella and my dad have mon-fri jobs. All of the others either have their own shops/businesses or are self employed/work shifts etc. So whatever day we held it on, some people were going to have to book time off.

We're getting married on a Wednesday but we're getting married abroad so everyone who comes will have to take a week off work (or at least 3/4 days).

As a guest I'd be fine with going to a weekday wedding. Back when I worked full time I'd have taken the Thursday and Friday off work and looked forward to a lovely long weekend off starting with a lovely wedding ?

I'm a thursday girl too! £8000 on saturday or £3000 on thursday, erm, I'll take the thursday please!

I'm Thursday too....2 weeks tomorrow eek!

I haven't really found it to be an issue with the guests as we gave everyone a year's notice so they could book the time off work etc to attend. And we got our venue for a third of the price like Soulmates did - we couldn't have afforded to get married there on a weekend tbh!

Two of my close friends have also got married on a Thursday and they didn't really have an issue either....I recommend it!

Happy planning x ?

I'm a thursday girl too, we live in the west mid's but are going to get married in devon. Also got it alot cheapers as others have said.

As long as you give your guests plenty of notice then they can just book the time off work.