Hi All
I don't know if this is going to come across as being ungrateful, but I can't help feeling sorry for OH and the family I'm marrying into...
I know money isn't everything and whatever, but I've always come from a generous background - not necessarily in term of quantities of money either. My mum has always been the type of person who, if she has £10 in her pocket, she'd rather spend it on someone else than herself. Yes, I'm an only child, but I don't think I'm spoilt at least not in the demanding-stanp-your-feet kind of way. I have always been bowled over by people's generosity, am careful to send thank you cards, and return kindness with kindness and if I can't match money for money, I'll match them in thoughtful deeds. Treat others as you would liek to be treated and all that.
We were at OH's family this weekend, and the subject of our gift list came up. We have been very fortunate, and our friends have been very kind, almost embarrassingly so.
OH's sister openly laughed at how tight she'd been with her gift to us, like it was some kind of badge of honour! ? We've paid for outfits for both of her children, paid for a suit for her husband, and obviously their hospitality for the day. In addition we've bent over backwards to make sure her children are well entertained for the day... All they have to do is turn up.
We've been given a toaster and not a fancy £200 Dualit one or anything like that, I should add. Into context she spent £200 on just her shoes for the wedding.
I really feel that this is some deliberate thing that she's doing. Like she's making some kind of point about him marrying me or something like that.
Or am I just being ungrateful to think this way?