Timing issues

I think his friend is being a bit silly. I could understand if he already had something planned for his birthday but if not I don't see what the problem is - surely the stag will be double the fun for him. He's a bit old to want to be the centre of attention just cos it's his birthday IMO. Why don't u suggest your oh emails back saying they make it a double celebration? After all a birthday happens every year but a stag is hopefully once in a lifetime. If the mate won't budge just let your oh rearrange to prevent any bad feeling

I think is depends. If he really was "in a strop" and "refused to go" then he is childish, and seeminly incapable of rational adult discussion. However, if it's more a case of being a bit miffed and not being available that weekend since he has other plans for his birthday, then that's fair enough. Either way, I wouldn't change the date.

Agree with this!

My hen weekend was picked by reference to which weekend was best for me and my 2 bridesmaids who were organising it. Then we invited everyone else. Like your OH it turns out one of my friend's has a birthday that weekend and she is having a think about whether she can come to at least part of the hen do. She hasn't at all said she's annoyed or said anything that would make me think she wants me to move the date.

We're all adults with busy lives, sometimes you have to choose between two things you want to do. I think it's really kind of your OH to consider moving his stag, but if the original date suited everyone else, there was no reason he should move it!

Thats just totally sad. I'll agree with others unless he had something special planned like a trip away booked or wanted to go to a one off event, it makes no sense. And even if it was those reasons its still sad for a grown man to have a strop about it.

Maybe a quiet word that in this recesion combining his birthday with the stag do would be better on everyones pockets and then they can do something just that little bit more special?

What a mard a*se! Tell him to persist of and act his age. I can't be bothered with grown adults who act like children

If i was your OH i would have my stag do when i want my stag do. you cant please everyoen. the mate needs to grow up!

I don't know, the way you've worded this makes it seem like he's stamping his foot, pouting, and otherwise acting like a small child. I have to admit, if it were me, I wouldn't want my birthday to be spent celebrating someone else, whether or not it's an 'important' year.

If a friend of mine was planning a hen weekend and she set a date without consulting the guests first, and it ended up being my birthday, I would ask if it could be changed, or I might politely bow out of the celebrations depending on the friend.

I'm planning a trip for my hen, and I've talked to all the girls I'm close to in order to make sure it's a good time for all of them. I wouldn't dream of planning it on anyone's birthday, and if it ended up being unavoidable, I owuld personally talk to her and explain why.

In this case, if your OH was easily able to change the date, maybe it would have been nice to approach the boys for possible dates before setting one, at which point someone saying, 'sorry mate, that's my birthday, and I was hoping I could do something with blah blah or go to blah blah, could we do sometime else?' wouldn't be considered stroppy.

Sorry, playing devil's advocate here, but there's always the other side to see.

No need to be sorry, you make a good point. I guess I'm not one for making a big deal of my birthday, so I didn't understand his reaction. I don't think anyone thought of checking for clashes with birthdays either, which was perhaps rather selfish. They are going to try to move the date now so he can come, but I guess none of us could really understand why he was making such a fuss about it. It seems he was offended that the date was even suggested as it was his birthday.