Tips on Dealing with Nerves Anyone?

Is it the vows you are concerned about? I was facing my OH and the celebrant saying these, not facing the crowd, so never noticed them.

If you do need to face the crowd, looking just above the top of their heads can help, if you don't want eye to eye contact. Take a breath beforehand and don't speed read.

You could try some rescue remedy beforehand (not sure if it works, but the power of the mind can do wonders)

I am a pretty confident person, but I was nervous the morning of the wedding. They only calmed down when I got out of the car at the church. I think it helped that we had a rehearsal the day before so I broadly knew what to expect. In relation to exchanging our vows, I honestly couldn't tell you if there was anybody in the church when we were exchanging our vows.

Also, I felt very overwhelmed about how many people were there for us and with us on the day. It was such an awesome feeling and made me feel comfortable giving my speech at the reception.

Posting this to follow... I am confident and not really shy. I do however struggle when there is a large group and I am the sole focus..... But every time I hear "the song" or think about the moment I enter the aisle way, I get tearful! In fact most things set me off at the moment and not sure how to deal with it.....

I can pretty much guarantee that you won't even realise there's anyone else there. From the moment I got to the top of the aisle to when the ceremony was over I only saw my H. You just don't notice, honestly!

I don't like being in situations where there are loads of people around, but our number are around 60 and only family, so I think the experience may help me in that respect. I know I'll be really nervous on the day, but for the important bit, I think I'll just concentrate straight ahead and only look at my OH! I don't want to take anything or drink any alcohol before hand for my nerves. I want to be completely clear headed!

I had a whiskey filled hit flask in the car with me - don't get me wrong I wasn't wasted but the other half bought it for me (it said keep calm and marry him) and a little drink on the car ride over definitely helped - even my dad had a nip!

I wasn't nervous about getting married it was just walking down the aisle infront of all those people but by the time I got to the church door it had all gone in fact I wanted to get down it so much and my nephew was walking so slowly I told him to speed up a little bit - bless him he had been practicing walking slowly so much that it went the other way!

In reality I didn't need the nip of whiskey and only had 3 sips but was enough for a little dutch courage!

I do a bit of drama stuff and I have found the best way to deal with nerves is to block out the people around me and under no circumstances make eye contact with anyone (except OH as this will help massively I think). I'm nervous too but mostly about falling over!! X

I thought that I would be nervous but I wasn't at all!

Everyone there in that room is there for you or your husband to be. It is not like you are in front of a crowd of strangers. I felt a massive amount of love an support from the guests and this just lifted me up and the nerves disappeared!

Thanks for the tips everyone. I wouldn't say I'm a nervous person in general. I wait tables so I'm used to speaking to people but this is really terrifying me! Everyone who's done it says to me that you'll forget everyone there and zone out. I hope this happens! I have bought some Rescue Remedy drops and will have to have a glass of prosecco before I go. I just want this bit to be over with!