To all those without their Dad today

This is my 30th fathers day without my daddy <brave smile>

H is at work so the kids haven't given him their card yet - i find it hard to get enthusiastic about it tbh

Thanks for this post HH, today is my first fathers' day without my dad and it's very sad. My dad too will be having a whiskey, listening to jazz and maybe even having a chat with Humphrey Littleton who joined him recently.

I will be taking flowers up to the graveyard but can't decide whether I would rather go on my own or with my H or with my daughters. I don't want to be miserable in front of people.

As HH said, love to everyone for whom fathers' day is a day to remember your lovely dad with fond memories and sadness for your loss.?

The worst one for me was the first - Marks and Spencer had signs everywhere saying "Think Dad". Like I could think of anything else

I am so looking forward to next year when I can participate again and buy stuff for H from the nipper. It won't be the same, but at least I can do something - anything - and not just have to let it wash over me.

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There's a downside to being a daddy's girl, isn't there? <weak attempt at humour>

Thanks for this post HH. This is the 5th year without my Daddy and 4th without my step dad.

Thinking of all of you today.

SJ x

It sure does suck ?

Thanks for this post, HH.

My Dad is alive, although emotionally distant. It's good to remember that there are people who are having a harder time than me.

Huge hugs to those of you missing your Dads today.

Mine's only on the other side of the world, but I know what it is to have Mother's Day without a mum, so bit ?s for you all.

Thankyou for this post HH, means a lot to know that there are others out there, sometimes you can feel a bit lonely when everywhere is displaying 'DAD' and have tannoys telling you to remember how special Dad is! I know how special my Dad was and I truly hate Fathers Day

Will make a special effort for H though, he has some small gifts and a lovely card from our son, its really hard to go and buy things but I like to make it special for him. I dont buy anything for his Dad though, he has to do that because I end up in tears!

Thinking of you all today ?#

My Dad is up there, free of pain, singing 'Sailing' with a bottle of Baileys next to him and that is a lovely thought

xxx

you just reminded me of something my (then) 3-year-old nephew said about where my Dad had gone...

"Grandad G has gone to heaven. Or maybe New Zealand."

Had us all in stitches at the time, we have no idea where he got the idea from. He is so right though. Dad's definitely gone somewhere, but it seems just around the corner and a very, very long way away all at the same time.

This is my 7th Father's Day without my Dad and although it gets a little bit easier, it's still a very difficult day.

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Big hugs to everyone on this post. ? This is my first Father's Day without my Dad and I'm finding it really hard not to cry but am trying to carry on as normal for the sake of MrS and the children.

He's probably up there with the rest of the Dad's drinking his single malt, playing golf and generally being the life and soul of the party, basically everything Alzheimer's stole from him. I miss you more than I ever thought possible Dad. ?

I lost my Dad nearly 14 years ago when I was 11. I HATE Father's Day but as I have a Grandad and a step Dad I can't not acknowledge it. My Dad will be drinking home brew and having a merry ole time, I would have loved to have known him as an adult and had a drinking session with him ?

? to everyone that needs it

my dad died when i was 8 - i still miss him so much.

he is probably drinking a party 7 can and watching z cars ? unless he has kept up with the times where ever he is

? daddy xx

I'm a bit emotional today and you lot have just made me cry again. ? Sorry, dudes.

It's my 20th without my dad and as I'm having problems with my mum I'm really feeling it this year!

WChookenS.

Much love to you all ?

Oh dear, hitched has made me sniffle. This place really does rock.

Much love everyone ?

Thanks HH. You have made me cry!

Hope everyone is bearing up. ?

9th one without dad today but I have my DD and H to consider and we are go going to PIL for a BBQ so cant be seen to be down in dumps about it.

Up The Spurs dad!!

My dad died 14 years ago on my 14th birthday. I hate father's day mainly because it falls in June; the end of may to mid June when people in my life always pass away...weird how it always happen at the same time of year (same day for my dad and gran).

Its really hard this year as my mum has finally lost it and does not want anything to do with me or my brother. In fact she wishes my brother and I were never born. Families, eh?

Big hugs to all those who have lost their dads.

Had another cry reading all the replies on this thread.

LaP - ? How lovely that you've got those letters. I kept letters from my Dad's Dad (who died when he was a teenager) and a load of other stuff from his loft when he died - I've not healed enough to look at them yet, but I'm starting to trace my family tree and may have the strength to go through them soon.

Thank you for thinking of me xx

This is my 2nd year without my Dad - I miss him so much.

He will be in heaven (pun) as the Jazz greats are nearly all up there & HL too.

So to all of you xxxxxxx

another one here who doesnt know what dad will be doing today. He was killed 29 years ago when i was 4 so i dont know a lot about him.

I secretly wish him happy fathers day every year and secretly talk to him all of the time.

Happy fathers day dad, I love you very much and wish I could have one day with you now.

x

? ?s to everyone today (and always).

It's 7 without my dad and I really had to try to get something for H from my LO. Not easy at all, and I'm here while they go to see my FIL, wasn't feeling like doing the dad thing there.

Dad will be having a gin and tonic at this time of day, before Sunday lunch. He'll be muscling in on the conversation with Humph too!

? to those missing their daddy today.

It's 4 and a half years since my dad passed away and it's getting a bit easier.

He'll definitely be drinking whisky and having a laugh wherever he is!

Massive hugs to all of you in the same position.

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It's also my 7th without my Dad. I managed to put it to the back of my mind until I read this and now I'm in tears too! I went to the crem on Thursday because it was Dad's birthday, but I think I might just have a ride out there again this afternoon

? to everybody who is missing their Dad today - especially to those who are experiencing their first Father's Day without their Dads. It does get a bit easier as the years go by.

I don't have anywhere to go to be with him iykwim I can't get to where his ashes were scattered and there are no memorials or anything anywhere.

<morbid> suppose I could go and sit on the stairs cos that's where he died ? sorry laugh or cry moment

I'd forgotton about all the other jazz greats that are there too - my dad will be in his element, playing his clarinet and sax, jamming (is it called that when it's jazz?) with all his heroes! Watched one of his fave films last night in silent, secret homage to him (Bringing up Baby) - I bought it for him for Xmas but he never got the chance to watch it.

This will be my second Fathers Day without my dad.

The worst thing is that its my brothers 21st today and he was devastated when Dad died - he was a real daddy's boy (being the only son). This thread has just reminded me of how he must be feeling. I'll call him to see how he is.

Dad used to call early on weekend mornings and I used to moan at him for getting me out of bed - what I wouldn't give for one of those early morning phone calls now..!

It does get easier...

Just wanted to say I'm thinking of everyone that's missing their dad today ? It can't be easy.

It's my 18th year without my dad. It's odd when I think that now, he's been dead over half my life.

I was a teenager when he died so I do still remember him, but I never knew him as an adult, which I am sad about. I know he led a very interesting life. He travelled the world in the military and was in the special forces. He'd never talk about it, but I like to think, had he lived, he might have taken me into his confidence as he went into old age and told me more about what he did.

My parents had me when they were well into their 30s (which was considered old back then for a first child). When I was born he decided his life was too risky, so he left the forces and went to work on the oil pipelines. Within ten years he had worked his way into senior management of the company's UK head office - which was an amazing achievement. I'm sure it was the hard work that caused the heart attack that killed him. He worked his arse off, which instilled in me a strong work ethic, but has also taught me to live life to the full (he died just as he was about to retire on a package that would have made him very comfortable for the rest of his days). He never did get to do all the things he wanted in his retirement, and I never intend to let that happen to me.

It does get easier as time goes on, you just get used to missing that person I suppose. However, it still hits me at odd times.

Fathers Day doesn't affect me too badly, I tend to just ignore it, tbh.