I just wanted to say, not to worry, and to stick with your instincts.
I had wobbles about my dress, the venue, my shoes, my jewelery, literally everything you could thing of.
and now, it has all paled into insignificance.
This week, I have accomplished so much, and realised that organisation is the best tool you could have and that once you have sorted a few things out, and it all seems real, all of your worries just fade away.
We gave notice at the Registar's Office last Tuesday, and it hit me like a bullet. I'm 40yrs old, never been married before, although my OH has been married twice, so I fully appreciate the commitment he has made.
We visited the venue and negotiated discount and payments and finalised our guest lists. Our venue isn't the best looking on the outside, but it's what we fell in love with and what we wanted.
We've had to cut our guest list significantly because of budget, yet those we've invited to join us after dinner etc, are all delighted to even attend even though it will just be for the evening, some of them have even delayed their holidays just to celebrate with us.
I've chosen the BMs dresses (my two step daughters) and they love them.
OH has chosen his ring, and it's not expensive - he's chosen a cheaper one, just so I could have the one that I've fallen in love with.
Our Photog, who is a very good friend of mine and a professional Photographer has very kindly offered to do our photos for free - as a thank you to him, we've offered to pay for his room for him and his girlfriend at the hotel.
We don't have the biggest budget in the world, we're doing this ourselves, we can't afford a honeymoon, or lots extra things for the wedding, but what we've managed to achieve is truly amazing.
All of those insecurities that I had a few months ago have disappeared, my dress is gorgeous, my shoes fab and comfor, my jewelery compliments me, the venue is so us and everything will be great. I am so much more positive than before.
I know a lot of ladies on here have issues about their dresses, venues, BMs dresses, photogs, literally everything to do with weddings and my honest opinion and advice to you all is not to fret or worry about what others think, it's what matters to you that's important. I'm so glad I realised this now as I will no longer worry about anyone's opinion, but just enjoy the day!
