"to do list" where can I get the best one?

Mine was a huge excel thing that I made from here:

https://www.hitched.co.uk/chat/forums/t/15733.aspx

I also suplimented it by thinking about what I wanted everything to look like and hence what needed to be done. I'm afraid it's unlikely you'll find a "one fits all".

Thanks little madam, i knew there wouldnt be one that fitted me perfect, but something I could tailor make, with the basics on is great! thanks for sharing the link! :-)