Hi,
So we are getting married next August and I’m starting to worry about one potential dilemma surrounding invitations! One of my bridesmaids is one of my longest friends who I grew up with all throughout primary and secondary school and she truly means the world to me. She suffers from anxiety which is particularly worse at the moment since she has had her little boy.
The dilemma I face is that we both have another ‘friend’ who we went to secondary school with. Now growing up that friend could sometimes be a bit unpleasant and they both several fall outs on many occasions. They both grew apart after leaving school, but I kept in touch with her.
She went travelling for almost 8 years so I only saw her infrequently but I think because of this travelling she hasn’t had many friends over the years. I had always thought I would ask her to our wedding but I wouldn’t be upset if she couldn’t make it. She did ask me to her hen and wedding last year but I was unable to make it.
My Bridesmaid recently made a comment saying “your not going to invite ... are you?”. She became very anxious at the thought of her being there and I hate the thought of her worrying about her all day as I know she won’t enjoy the day with her being there and that will bother me. I’d also have to sit her with the same group of friends as she doesn’t know anyone else and would be travelling over 250 miles to be there so can’t invite her to the evening only.
To me it’s more important that my best friend doesn’t get upset and enjoys the day but I don’t know how to deal with the situation as I’m sure she will be expecting an invite (she has been messaging me about the wedding lately) and will certainly ask why she wasn’t invited if I don’t ask her. I also think this would affect our friendship and cause some tension between us.
What would people suggest? I’m really stuck with what I can do!
