To the not upduffed of Hitched

I can't quite come to terms with not having another baby yet, but on the odd occasion that I do, I day dream about having some kind of business. I don't know what yet, but something that I can start off small and grow until I have enough money to then move into property development.

Definately not going to be upduffed. 1 x 14yr old sulky teenager is enough for me ?

We are both in a comfortable work positions to give us nice cars and to go on really nice holidays every year as a family (Bali plans next year) and then when teenager doesn't want to we will go on longer holidays just the 2 of us and get to see the world.

Would love to retire early but dont think thats going to happen

I plan to eat, drink, bonk, travel, and read to my heart's content. More seriously, buy and furnish a dream house.

We are going to give the baby thing a shot, but to be honest it looking unlikely it will happen as I'm very broken.Not giving up just yet but have spoken about alternatives! So, we have spoken of a different city break in a different country each year for our anniversary and birthdays, getting a little map of Europe to put pins in etc (starting with Barcelona next month, yay!) learning to drive, and getting a dog(very excited by this one!).

I would very much love to be upduffed but I do often think that if it didn't happen then it would only mean that H and I would have more time and money for us and we would definitely make the most of this by travelling, living in a lovely home etc. I try to think quite positive, so as much as I would love a baby I also won't be to disheartened if it's just not meant to be. (I say that now)

We may well try to get upduffed one day, but for the next few years the plan is:

Seeing friends, eating out, doing courses, selling/buying a house, and holidays.

We have a cruise earmarked for next year!

Plan is to enjoy life. Good jobs/financial position or jobs we enjoy, lots of holidays, boinking, booze and fun.

oooooooo where! where!!

Althougn upduffed, i still plan on doing things like the above suggestions, my life wont be on hold forever just beacuse i decided to have kiddies ?

It's not too exciting, just 12 days in Northern Europe/Russia! But I really hope it'll happen.

Pah! Ha ha ha ha ha ha ..... (Oh yes it will -from a mother of three)

Im going to get a much better paid job with plenty of holiday allowance, H will give up his 9-5 and focus on his band fulll time (the rate things are going, he is hoping this time next year to at least go part time!)

we will have fabulous holidays and a fabulous social life and will be able to drop everything at a moments notice when friends call with a great idea for a night out/weekend away/holiday!

Plan is to have a couple of years to just have us time, before fingers crossed bringing bambinos into the equation, never lived together until we got married so its still all very interesting! ha.

What really annoys me is how everyone now constantly asks 'are you pregnant yet?' give us a chance and we might not even want/be able to have them, I don't no why everyone wants to rush your life through.

I'm going to get a dog, live in a lovely home, go on really posh holidays and just buy lovely things for myself.

I'm going to be the cool auntie to my friends' children, buy them stuff that their parents won't and generally spoil them. Oh yes, and be the one who covers for them when they get up to no good.

I had a cool single uncle with no children, us nieces and nephews always had the newest gadget!!! I was one of the first at school to have a moblie, which he bought for my 16th birthday much to my shock and delight. I can't wait to be the one dishing out the goods!

Pretty much exactly this, minus the dog !!

In about 2 weeks when we get our lives back ?we will plan to transfer what is currently monthly wedding savings into OH's debts. By March next year we will be (except mortgage) debt free.

We are then going to save for a massive trip, at the moment we dont know where either SE Asia or Latin America. we have a BA voucher for buy one get one identical ticket free thing and OH has enough points to buy a first class ticket to Hong Kong or Rio (I'd then use the voucher for my matching first class free ticket.

I want to see everything there are so many places to visit and people to meet. I think we will eventually retire overseas somewhere warm?

I do sometimes feel left out on ot due to my non babiness. Our plans are to have nice hols,buy our dream house and enjoy being old.

and look after your good hitched friends babies ?!!? no?! sure?!?

Exactly why we need this thread!

And good on you Mini - I like like your plans!

Flow,have you ever seen me with a baby? Not a pretty sight.

I do too. FB 2012 brides group is all babied up as well. The closest I will get to a baby is a food baby.

This

Or my cats. They are my babies (wierdo alert)

I think OT should be just that and any Baby related topics should be posted on BT for this reason on other forums alot of the posts on here would get moved to the BT board.

I know I'm just an OT Lurker but wanted to say historically OT was a baby talk free zone, for many reasons but mainly I think so that the marrieds could go one of two ways BT or OT. Back in the day it was definitely frowned upon to post anything Baby related on OT. I totally understand why people want to and like to, you form friendships and connections and want to share your stuff. Its the same on BT ... We are guilty of doing (too?) many OT topics. ?Shame we can't all use the 'proper' forums and all join together because there's great Hitchers and Threads on both.

I'm musing here, not telling anyone what to do [scuttles back to BT]

What about those who don’t want children or can’t have children. Correct me if I’m wrong but BT is and rightly so full of people preggers, ttc, having a tough time trying and mums. Well that’s my perception anyway. I you don’t fall into those categorys then surely OT is the place to post. No? Whats the point in going over to OT and starting a post "I don't want Children"

Current status: Not Upduffed

Future status: Hopefully Upduffed.

Like Flow, I don't see my life completely stopping, it will be different sure but I will still do things I want to do with my life. I have friends at opposite ends of the spectrum, some who their children are now their life and nothing else, and others who still go out and socialise and go on holidays and do things for themselves while still enjoying being parents. I want to find a happy medium!

I don't think that we have too many specific baby threads in here, we just happen to have had a lot of OT babies in the last few months or so and are naturally excited and want to chat with people we 'know'. Most of those in OT who are upduffed do spend some time in BT and certainly will post their specific BT questions over there. With BT moving to a totally new site too, this may also mean more BT related posts appear in here.

We have worked hard to get OT busy again, I don't see the problem myself.

I think that those who are upduffed are posting in BT, but those who are currently thinking about it or planning it do post baby-related questions etc in OT. I don't really have a problem with this, like Mrs C says people will want to chat to and ask questions of people they 'know', but I do wonder sometimes if people would get more/'better' responses if they posted their questions in BT. By 'better' I just mean that there is a wealth of experience in BT and not all the BTers read OT.

I don't have kids but would like to. Our plan at the moment is to go on a big American route 66 road trip next summer as our last big adventure, then start TTC after that. I don't think OT has to be a baby talk free zone, as from what I've seen the baby threads on OT just seem to be people sharing their good news, rather than asking baby specific advice, and I don't see anything wrong with that.

I'm not ready for BT yet. I have friends on OT that I know can help me out with my very early questions.

Once I actually begin to TTC I'll be using BT to talk about that but I like seeing the updates of preggo OTers over here.

Exactly that!! I have posted on BT before but if I'm having general ponderings then I'll tend to stick with OT.

Also even when I am TTC I can imagine I'll still mostly stay on OT. Even though I'm still a bride to be I don't post as much on WP because I got bored talking about wedding stuff, and to be honest I can imagine I'll get equally bored of talking about baby stuff.

I think this is exactly what Beez was saying!

naaaawwwwwwwwwww?

i dont like to post preggo related things here or updates through fear of offending /boring/winding up people so for that part of my life i tend to stick to BT..but i feel more 'at home' here if that makes sense? my 'friends' both internet weirdy and real life actual people are here and i know them better(and they know me, my humour and get how i write!)