To the not upduffed of Hitched

I find it rather annoying that posts are being nit picked as to what category they fall in when quite clearly there is not an influx of BT posts on OT.

Note - To anyone who attempts to post about baby's in OT and NOT in BT you will be banished forever! Childish comment I know, but it does seem a bit ridiculous.

Weirdy internet hugs. I think of you each time a new pregnancy is announced. ?

Clarelou - we are agreeing. I don't mind but I wonder about those who are having trouble ttc, or are really not interested in babies might shy away from OT. I remember from lurking on DW that it's not the 'done thing' because of that reason. It's not for me to say, I'm just thinking out loud really.

Old Bear ? I know we're not well acquainted so I hope you don't mind me saying but your post is exactly the example I needed to illustrate my point. So sorry you're having a tough time, I can't imagine. Inadequate ?

I know what you are saying and it makes sense if people were constantly discussing BT on OT, but it’s not like that. Only because we have a massive influx of regular OT’ers that are pregnant or have recently become mums is the subject coming up a fair bit. No one is actually starting a thread about TTC or such like. When BT topics have been started on OT in the past I have seen people comment that they would get a better response on BT. But to talk about using BT for the context of this thread I think is a bit unfair, or to even point it out I feel was unnecessary. I hope people get where I’m coming from, I’m not the most articulate when trying to get my point across so I do aplogise if I’m not making any sense.

Just to add my 2 pence to this, I find BT a bit 'unapproachable', and to be honest when I've posted in the past it hasn't been to much avail. However, on the back of this thread I persevered and posted a query in BT about the pill and the only person that replied was Saisi, someone that I 'know' from OT

I agree to an extent. I have never posted on BT due to the fact I feel that I haven't got kids and I'm not trying that I can't and shouldn't post there (although I maybe have questions about TTC etc) I feel like everybody there knows each other so well (and maybe they feel like that about OT) this is maybe why a lot of OT topics get posted in BT? Also because I'm not there often I'll miss any OTers news/updates etc.

Im not sure this is coming across very well. I just don't think there are a lot of topics related to BT on here. Not sure if that's just me or if I just don't see/read them?

AC, to answer your question, I would like to have children one day but I hope that I'll have the sort of life my parents had when we were young.

Other than when times were very tight financially my parents had a pretty good lifestyle. They'd try to get away together at least once a year and would go out quite often too. What I want from my life, whether we're fortunate enough to have children or not, is a fulfilling business, the opportunity for adventure (whether here or abroad) and the chance to create happy memories.

We've discussed how we'd try to balance parenthood with remaining 'us' and, touch wood all is fine, we'd start by throwing ourselves in to things. First holiday post rugrat? Inter-railing round Europe. That kind of thing.

As for the BT/OT thing, having seen the disagreements it has over on DW I'd really prefer for OT not to fall into that style of doing things. I think people should be able to post what they like, where they like but ideally bearing in mind the sensitivities of others. I think people are pretty good for using BT for proper BT things but general musings about kids seem to be fine here. I know that the whole 'personals' thing over on BT isn't for me so I'm not sure I'd use BT in the way that most people do anyway. It is a great resource though but more so when people use it in a way that they feel comfortable doing so.

I don't really see the need for a plan B, as for me a plan B is something you fall back on if plan A doesn't pan out, and kids never made it into my plan A, if you see what I mean!

I now have a step grandson and quite like being a grandma.