Too many other weddings! Bridezilla alert

Totally understand. Hasn't happened to me but I know it would annoy me. I would not like this especially because there's nothing you can do about it. Are any of these people close friends?

My my only advice would be to say that you only do this once hopefully so enjoy it and try not to think about all the others that have got engaged. Don't waste your energy on them. Focus on your wedding and your fiancé and getting ready to have the best day.

My bridezilla moment was when my fiances uncle and wife and 2 kids (who emigrated to Australia 15 years ago and never came back) decided to invite themselves to our wedding which can only fit 60 people. He doesn't speak to his brother (my father in law) much at all and was actually going to stay with another family member (who is invited) as their first visit back which just happened to be over our wedding. The other family member is invited as she lives in the U.K. This relative invited them without askin us and was annoyed when I said there might not be room as we'd already sent invites out.

What annoyed me was that the relatives coming from Australia didn't even tell my fiancé or his dad they were coming. They haven't visited in 15 years and they don't tell them they are coming until they find out about the wedding! I feel like they are going to use it as an excuse to have a reunion and just eat all the food and drink the nice wine we spent thousands on.

found myself saying to my fiancé BUT ITE MY DAY!

Sorry to hijack your thread just thought I would share my annoyances.

all we can do is try to ignore it!

I was engaged many years ago and my then fiancé's twin brother and girlfriend got engaged after us and had their wedding before us! I was furious! And their wedding was 2 days before Christmas. I think his family felt it was all a bit much with there being 2 weddings within 6 months of each other and with theirs being so close to Christmas (an expensive enough time without the expense of a wedding) I completely understand how you feel! I never got married in the end and we broke up but not because of that.

I can totally understand you feeling annoyed, unfortunately you can't control other people. Some people get swept up in things, or it may just be a coincidence. As long as their weddings aren't too close to yours there shouldn't be any issues. Back to back weddings can be tiresome.

The thing you can control is your wedding and the potential proposal at your wedding. I read a dreadful account of a wedding proposal -don't know how true it was but I am amazed the offender left with his teeth! A friend was officiating, stopped partway though to propose, hijacked the speeches to talk about him and his new fiancé and even asked the DJ for a dedicated dance!

I would either have a discreet word with the friend or appoint a friend or family member to "manage" said person and prevent any inappropriately timed proposals.

Deep breaths and make sure your wedding is what you want and makes you happy.

The idea of someone proposing at another's wedding makes me feel physically sick. This can't be a thing? Surely? I don't think I'd even remotely consider someone a friend if there was a chance of that happening.

With regard to other people, it's understandable that you want all the attention on yourself. However, I assume you're at an age where people are settling down in general? I doubt people are getting engaged to spite you, it just so happens that you may have set off a chain of events which has allowed others to feel ready to make a big commitment. If so you should feel proud, not upset.

There's a US syndicated advice column that I enjoy called 'dear prudence'. I can't remember what the problem was but it ended with 'am I wrong to feel to like this?'. The answer is no, you are not wrong. feelings are feelings, instinctive and sometimes raw. It's okay to feel put out and peeved - if it's how you feel, how can it be wrong? What can be wrong is to act on them. So you've done exactly the right thing - come to somewhere where you can safely vent and process it. I get really angry when i hear anyone sneer 'oooh, first world problems.' Just because other people have bigger and different problems doen't make anyone else's feelings and problems less real. And the idea for assigning a person to run interference on your potential proposer is a great one.

Thank you I have calmed down now lol. I am pleased it isn't just me being silly.

I think you're right in saying it is the age where people settle down, I'm 27, 28 when we get married.

Most of these people are close to me and I am happy for them, it's just timings I think. Less than a year to go for us and I'm already panicking trying to get everything perfect.... The latest thing was my save the dates - I ordered them with a 2017 date! Genius. Needless to say that was annoying and I have to order more for my 2018 wedding!

In regards to the two other couples having a proposal, hopefully it wouldn't cross their minds and it's just me over thinking again, but I think it may have to come into conversation somewhere as one I don't see very often at all.

Two of these weddings are before us, one is a couple of weeks before. I think I will just focus on mine again, and probably take mum everywhere with me as she is already married lol. She has been great with the wedding so far.

I find when people get engaged or pregnant there's often a knock on effect. Other people close to them start considering the idea too. After I got engaged two friends also got engaged and another got pregnant (within a month of my engagement) when there had been a huge gap between the last lot. I was kind of like 'stop' stealing my Thunder' but also slightly touched as one admitted it was our engagement that encouraged him.

Four couples got engaged when we did two will be married before us but we've worked together to spread them out so that's cool. My only annoyance is the stag do of the guys who are getting married soon, they've asked my OH to spend nearly £300 in total on this stag do and that's the amount we save a month for the wedding. However it's also (mostly) OH's fault for agreeing to go, I just don't understand why people arrange such expensive things, when others feel obliged to go! OH then said how much are we giving them for their honeyfund? I'm like nothing, they had it all on his stag do, all your wages are gone and I'm sorry but we can't afford it. Do I sound unreasonable?

I don't think you're unreasonable MetalBride, that's a lot for a piss up... I don't understand why people go so overboard...

I get your venting but I dont really understand this feeling at all... the world wont stop because someone gets engaged and honestly no one gets married to steal spotlight or get attention

I think people notice more when they are 'involved' in things, if your pregnant everyone else suddenly seems pregnant, if your engaged everyone else suddenly seems engaged etc... but its really no higher than the average amount you didnt notice before hand

loads of people have got engaged after me and several have gotten married before me and I honestly do not care at all, now if there was a clash of dates or someone proposed at my wedding then I would be very upset but not just people going about their own lives with no effect on my life

sometime you might be irratated by someones situations, I think we all quietly judge but really the phrase 'not my circus, not my monkey' is very apt - for instance someone got engaged just after me after dating someone for two WEEKS and booked the wedding a week later, I personally think its rediculous (as they both have bad past records for relationship with them barely lasting a few months) but its their business so while I quitely cringe at watching this car crash unfold its not really something that is 'personal' against me we just happen to be two people co-existing in the same group who got engaged in the same month

I hope you feel better after sleeping on it, just remember your wedding is yours and thats the one that matters and whatever others are doing is just incidental