Top Table

Just tell him that it is not tradition to have her on the table... Just explain that it is you mum and dad, and H2B parents.

Say that you understand why he wants her on the table table but you dont think it is right.

When you say "girlfriend" do you mean "been together years but never got married", or "only known her for 3 weeks"? A lot of it also depends on your relationship with them; do you treat her as a 'sort of mother' or can you not stand her?

My parents separated then remarried so we've got 3 sets of parents on the top table.

Depends on whether it will upset everything. My mum and dad divorced years ago and are both with new partners but not married so we decided to do away with parents on the top table and are havingour bridesmaids and best men instead with my mum 'hosting' a table of her family, my dad doing the same for his and the in-laws also doing the same.

My best friend had exactly the same situation as you and she sat her dads other half with his family who she knew and said it was only parents on the top table - 2 either side, any more and it would unbalance it. Not ure whether the girlfriend was happy but ultimately she is not your mum so probably knows she can't assume the same status as your mum at your wedding

We have always known that our top table would be different from the norm, my dad passed away 3 months ago, and OH dad has a partner. We checked with OH mum first that she was happy if the girlfriend was on table which she was, and then we asked the girlfriend herself, as she is the sort of person who doesn't like the spotlight and might have been happier on a different table. As yet she hasn't decided. My only issue is I want the top table to be an even number, so need to think of one person I can bring 'promote'! hehe

We have lots of family strife, but in the end its just a table for dinner, although I fully understand that view depends on the relationship you have with those people! I know my Dad who contributed lots to my brothers wedding was very miffed to not be on top table, to the point he threatened not to attend, his girlfriend at time sat with her children on another table and Dad went on the top one. Has she got children she could be sat elsewhere with, as that would give you an excuse to put her elsewhere with no arguments!