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Top Table - advice needed

ExpensiveBrownStationery678, 11 October, 2017 at 14:15 Posted on Planning 0 1

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Hello everybody!

Im looking for some impartial advice. So my dad passed away a couple of years ago, and of course I'm devastated he won't be around for the big day. One issue that's cropped up is about the top table. My mum recently re-married, and I don't really know her husband all that well (I only me him once they were already engaged!). He's a nice guy, and I don't have a problem with him at all, but he's not my dad. I don't really think he should be at the top table, just because that should have been my dad's place.

Does that sound reasonable? Or should I ask him to sit up there next to my mum? (I feel she might take it personally if I don't)

Any advice gratefully received!

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Latest activity by ExpensiveYellowConfetti904, 12 October, 2017 at 13:47

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HappyBrownConfetti849 · 11 October, 2017 at 17:13
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Provided your mom is a reasonable person and you word things considerately, she shouldn't mind.

Just one question though, if your dad was still alive, would your mother's new husband still have to sit elsewhere? If the answer is yes, then there isn't an issue really is there?

If your mom really wants to sit with her husband you can always have them sit together on a nearby table and keep the top table for you, the groom, MOH and best man.

Alternatively if your mom is quite insistent, have them both on the top table, but with him on the outside edge, and a photo of your dad on the table where his place would have been. Then your mom is happy and your dad hasn't been "replaced" and is still remembered on the day.

Those are your best options in my opinion x
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ExpensiveYellowConfetti904 · 12 October, 2017 at 13:47
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After a total top table nightmare and everyone I spoke to mentioned their hell at trying to please everyone I opted not to have one.

I have children so I will be sitting with them and my brother, his wife and daughter and our parents both on different tables with their friends/family.

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