We're having a bit of a palava trying to sort our top table out for our wedding and I really don't know what to do! Originally the plan was us, my parents, OH's mum and her partner, OH Dad and his partner and chief bridesmaid and best man. The best man is married but as our top table was 10 people long (the wedding is only 44 people!) we put his wife on a table with my friends (she doesn't really know anyone there and is bringing their 2 month old baby). I though this was all sorted but I mentioned to my OH the other day "does best man's wife know she isn't sat with him" and he said no ? so I sent her a message on fb explaining the situation saying I'm terribly sorry you aren't sat at the top table etc... I've put you with some lovely people, however if you really prefer I can sit you together but it'll mean best man isn't sat on the top table.
Anyway she's turned around and said she'd prefer it if he was sat next to her not on the top table... my OH is very upset, saying whats the point in having a BM if he isn't even on the top table and the speeches will look all silly and people will think it's weird. TBH I agree, I was hoping she'd just say she was ok sat by herself, but I understand what its like to go to a wedding and sit by yourself and feel lonely (funnily enough I was in the same position at her wedding).
I'm completely confused what to do. Tbh BM hasn't really stepped upto the mark at all and I thinkOH regrets asking him to be BM and this is just the icing on the cake. I feel terrible for my OH as it would be nicer if BM was sitting on top table but now I've suggested sitting with his wife I feel I can't go and change things again as she'll wonder what on earth we're doing, plus she obv wants to sit next to him. OH said it doesn't matter (I know it does to him) and he'll just have to sit at a normal table but I can't help but think it'll be odd when the speeches come around and the BM has to stand up and everyone will wonder why he's not sat at top table. We just feel a bit let down that he'd rather sit next to his wife than be BM. What do you guys suggest we do? I really do see it from both sides - bad to sit by yourself but also you only be BM once so couldn't she just lump it (its only for a few hours)... argh! Do you think people will think it's odd that BM isn't at the top table? It's more my OH I feel sorry for. There really is no way we could squeeze her on the top table either so it's either he's on there and she isn't or they both aren't.