Top table how are you doing yours?

Hi!! I can see your predicament. But I think what you have written down is good. It shouldn't be awkward as for example your H2B's parents won't be say next to each and neither will urs even though as u say they get on. It will be your mum chatting to ur partners dad and vice versa. Sounds fab to me x

We have the exact same problem! They're so many people in our families that deserve a spot on the top table and it's like we can't put so and so on the top table because so and so deserves to be there more etc.

So we decided that we are going to have a small top table of just me and my HTB.

The other tables are going to consist of our nearest and dearest closest to us. Then the rest of the family towards the back.

We are only having a small wedding breakfast of 40 people so it will all be quite close anyway

BUT, if you don't like that idea, it's YOUR wedding, you have who you feel should be on the top table.

xxx

My parents are divorced and I will be having as you suggested. My dad's wife and mum's other half will be seated with family. No one has mentioned anything and seeing as my mum and dad are using an old insurance policy they had together to pay towards the wedding I don't think there will be a problem. I never understand why step parents think they should be on there.

I had a similar problem as my parents are divorced, only my dad remarried and my mum is still single and health has deteriorated quite dramatically. She doesn't want to be on top table as she thinks everyone will stare at her because she's so I'll. So for me that was the perfect excuse not to have anyone on top table! So we are having a sweetheart table, just me and my OH. We are after all the most important people there!

We to have this problem so we resolved it like this...told our parents that they were welcome on the Top Table but their partners were unable to sit with us there as there simply isn't any room. We then left the decision with them as to where they sat, top table or with their partners and other family on tables right at the front. Everyone was happy with that and actually all the parents have chosen to sit with their partners. So our top table is us, our 2 children, 2 bridesmaids and best man x

I think given the situation, your table plan looks the best option for everyone! This is the traditional way of doing things, and is useful that the separated parents do not have to sit next to each other. The only issue you will have is if any of them object that their partner is not on the top table with them, which is daft.

We're lucky in that both of our sets of parents are still together, and I'm doing:
Best Man - FOG - MOG - Groom - Bride - MOB - FOB - Bridesmaid (my sister)

But for you I think what you've said is best - you can use tradition as your excuse if you get any awkward questions ?

I'm undecided what I'm doing with mine, my brother will be on the top table in place of my dad, and MF's dad is hard of hearing, so I think he'd like to sit next to MF's mum, but don't want it to look to 'them and us'

I apparently now have a similar problem... thought we'd got it sorted! We were going to have a round top table with:

Me

OH

my dad

my mum

his dad

his mum

moh

best men

Then last night my mum said she doesn't want to be seated away from her partner... so the choice is either have him on the tope table (I like him well enough, but not enouch to risk upsetting my dad over) or not have my mum on our table which seems wrong.

Quite upset with her for putting me in this position really. Its only 2.5 hours!!!