Top table problem!

Fifteen is a bit big for the top table - although of course your venue may be able to accommodate it. Have you checked with them to see what they suggest?

A common solution to this kind of problem is to have what is known as a 'sweetheart table' for the newlyweds (which could be extended to include your children, so it seats 4), then the various sets of parents each "host" one of the other tables.

I like AJs idea- you could have a family table with just your children and that way you won't offend anyone. Perhaps then have the 'important' guests on a table right in front of you if they all get along?

One way around it and makes it much easier is for you to have just you & OH, the Best Man & Bridesmaids on the Top Table & to have the parents with their partners hosting Guest Tables. This way you don't upset anyone and they all have the same role.

Oh gosh, thats really tough, I don't envy you!

I agree with the other posters, sounds like its all or nothing really, so limit it to just you and your kids and Best man and bridesmaids, surely all those parents cannot expect you to include them all.

Hi all, thank you, I was originally thinking about just having me, OH, bridesmaids, best man and my children, but then my mum mentioned about her being on the top table, I got really confused as I hadnt even thought about my / his parents being on it.. I will have to break it to my mum that she can't be on the top table, because there just wouldnt be enough room, and because of the amount of parents I have it wouldnt be fair to have just her. I like the sweetheart table idea. Thank you.

We have decided the only people at our top table will be us and both sets of parents. Our bridesmaids and best man are sitting at seperate tables with their partners and children

Our parents are both divorced and remarried, we only had our mums and dads on our top table, their partners sat with the rest of our families on tables next to ours (our top table was a round table in the centre of the room).

This is a problem for me tho, as I have 2 dads, I couldn't choose only one of them. They are both giving me away! I don't think they would want to be sat away from their OH's. and I don't think their OH's would like to be sat away from them..

Its hard we have large top table to keep everyone happy i have me and oh, my son our daughter oh 2 sons his parents my dad and step mother and my grandparents who bought me up my bms and best man on another table with their partners and children good luck however you do it x

My parents are divorced too but I will only be having my mum and my father together on the top table and his wife and my half brother/sisters sat with their mum at another table. We all get on very well and I think his wife is capable of sitting with her children apart from her husband for a couple of hours just for the duration of the meal. It would be impossible to have everybody sat at the top table just to keep them happy. Would you fathers wife be understanding enough to do this.

Mrs C:

I am having the same issue. So to save all the complicated who remarried who etc we are having just us the best man and the big bridesmaids at the top table.

It will also just be just me and OH thanking people as they leave the ceremony instead of a long receiving line before the breakfast.