Totally random excited post :)

You have no need to be sorry, i love that three of your points include your step son, and that your so excited about it, i have a two year old step daughter who i love with all my heart she is the most amazing little girl, we have had so much trouble trying to get contact with her and every moment we get is just so memorable, we get her boxing day this year, so our christmas day is then,

sometimes i get so worried because i love her so much and treat her like a princess that her mother (who is crazy btw) hates me for it, but you just cant help doing nice things with her, for a two year old shes so pleasant and grateful for you just to spend a little time with her, silly things like playing dolls or making cakes, she dosent get any interaction with her mum, they just leave her to her own devises and she ends up going to sleep its heart breaking

i love your excitedness

lara x

I think we must be very similar people cuz i feel just like that about my J. He's amazing and i feel so lucky to have seen him grow from a baby to a little boy and to go from babbling to having an almost conversation. He's 2years 9 months now and we roll around the floor and play fight its great. He has a huge cast on his arm and leg from a recent operation but it hasnt stopped him from being a little boy and having lots of fun x

Haha aww nothing stops them at all does it, speedy recovery for him though,

exactly the same as you though ive known M since she was born i was friend with my OH before we got together and saw all the trouble and heartache that he had to go through, courts etc, which unfortunately is still going on at the moment, the day we get back from honeymoon we have an appointment with the solicitors to start court again third time,

M is so looking forward to a new baby brother or sister to, and is calling one of her dolls bean now, but she is insistent we have a little girl, fingers crossed we found out this tuesday.

is your phone full to the brim of photos of him, lol, do you get along with his mum?

lara x

He constantly amazes me he had his op on thursday and by saturday he was walking (despite suposed to being non weigh bearing - i thik ive spelt and worded that all wrong!!) and we were play fighting i ended up with a suspected cracked rib it was great, he's back to normal pretty much.

I met my h2b when J was 17 months and met J on our 2nd date and we've bonded so much we have abit of Vikki and J time when we can. Fortunately custody agreements have been kept out of court, ive just had to deal with her stupidity and there divorce, i think in the future J may come to live with us through personal choice as he seems so much happier with us. It awful that your having to fight so much!!!

I cant wait till we give J a little brother or sister, he will be about 4 and a half when we start trying, he like babies so i think he will be great. Good luck at your scan!! Do you want a boy or girl? Despite not being pregnant im of the thinking as long as my baby is healthy i dont care.

My phone, my computer, my facebook are all full of his photo's. I take my camera everywhere so i dont miss anything with him.

Im not a fan of his mum at all and i dont think she likes me unless she wants something like me to watch him so she can go out or do something but im not bothered i know J loves me, after his op he was aking for me and as soon as he see's his dad he asks for me.

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I wish we had things in place which made it easier than fighting through courts, but shes so unreasonable, but luckily there was no divorce to go through, i can imagine thats awful, especially if she is anything like OH ex.

i used to look after M all the time while my OH was in work, and we got such a bond, then when we asked if M could come away with us she pulled all contact, for two weeks it was horrible, i went from having her five/six days a week to nothing, and now we just get weekends, which i know we should be grateful for but like yourself she is so much happier here, and when bean comes along in february she will want to be with him/her more, im sure.

her mum dosent know about bean yet, she will go crazy, solicitor has advised us to tell her in court, i will be booking the first plane out the country when she gets told,

we really dont mind if its a boy or girl, main thing is that bean is healthy, but i cant wait to find out, im so excited, and M gets to come to the scan, (we told her mum she has a dress fitting for the wedding, i know its bad)

M shouts me first when we pick her up, first its lara, then daddy, then love you whole wide world, then lara mint, lol

lara x

She can be very unreasonable and has a bad attitude and behaves like a teenager not a 31 year old. We have decided not to take J with us when we go get married in cyprus because we know she can be spiteful (she deliberately stopped him from having a sleep on a day i was takinghim to a party so he would be grumpy and upset) and would more than likely decide the day before our wedding and several times inbetween that he couldnt come and H2B knows how much that would hurt us both probably more so hurt me and i know its for the best but it is abit sad, going to make it upto him at our wedding reception when we get back though.

I cant wait to tell J's mum that we are expecting as well im evil and i know she will hate it and no doubt carry on especially as h2b never wanted kids and she tricked him into her getting pregnant, she wanted another and he said no and was planning havingthe snip but then she left him and we met and life is great and h2b just randomly told meone day that he has been doing alot of thinking and he really wants us to have a baby. That convo made my day cuz theres nothing i want more than to give him another son or a daughter and make J a big brother.

Oh thats so exciting that M is going too, very crafty but i like it!! I hope J can come with us when its our turn.

For the first time a few weeks ago J woke up, got out of bed and opened his door and shouted Vikkiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii. Usually its daddy but it was my turn and it made me feel so special i got all emotional.

My h2b just rang and J has pulled his cast off of his leg, Very impressive as it went to half way up his thigh and was bent at the knee, His mum is on her way to the hospital with him the little monkey.

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What a little monkey, very determined though, i like it, lol

i always get shouted, she wakes at 2am without fail and its always a very sorrowful shout of lara, she just wants a hug and a drink but its lovely, and since ive been pregnant i cry at everything, she went on the potty the other day and said i wee wee'd and i burst into tears,

its been very difficult and its court ordered that M is allowed to be at the wedding, plus we asked for her to be with us on the honeymoon to lanzarote and M's mum went berserk in court, the judge told her its an ideal place for kids to go on holiday and why wouldn't he want his daughter on holiday with him, she said its weird having a baby with you on your honeymoon, to which the judge said your ridiculous and said of course you can take her away. woohoo

you ever need any crafty little tips im full of them since ive known my OH ive come up with some terrible things to make sure my OH can see his daughter,

its amazing how peoples lives can change when they meet someone new, your h2b is a perfect example of it, finding happiness with someone and they develop a need for other aspects of their life, babies.

my partner was told he couldnt have children at all, i thought M might of just been a one chance miracle, and knew there was a chance we wouldnt concieve naturally, but i have always wanted to be a mummy and when i found i was pregnant OH went to the docs and they said ok we were wrong,

lara x

He definately is determined, very stubborn too just like his dad!! we did expected it so its not really a great surprise, i did think it would last longer than a week though.

Its great when they do cute stuff isnt it, the first time J gave me a kiss before bed made me cry - he wont kiss his mum, i get all emotional when he's going home and im not going with them and he comes and grabs my hand and says 'come on vikki'. He's just so cute. He's just sbout coming through thr terrible 2's now and im happy about that cuz we've had some terrible tantrums including one where he threw his jacket on the floor so i asked him to pick it up and he said no so my h2b asked him why and J replied with 'cuz its happy' i had to cover my face so i didnt laugh and stay firm with him picking it up, 30 mins of screaming later he picked it up stopped screaming and started playing as if nothing had happened.

Thats great that she has agreed to that, we have to have a signed and dated letter from his mum if we ever want to take him out of the country which we will want to do in the future as i want to take him to disneyland paris in a few years.

I like craftyness, sometimes its necessary and i dont consider it lying so much as bending the truth. We went to a wedding fayre with J and then went to the railway museum in York so we told his mum what we we're doing only we failed to mention the wedding fayre but next time she will definately know.

My h2b was a smoking workaholic who never wanted to remarry or have more children when we met and 6 months later he had stopped smoking, working only in work hours (where possible) and was engaged, a few months later he decided he did want more kids. so your definately right about how peoples live can change.

Awh thats so lovely that you conceived naturally after thinking you wouldnt. Dr's just dont have a clue sometimes!!

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We have been really luckily with M she dosent do tantrums, although she does tend to say things like i mind it when she wants the laptop, and i do it when your hoovering, like you going to let her do either, lol

we did ask for a letter to take her away even with the court order it would be easier if she needs any medical treatment etc i look into every eventuality, my OH gave her it and she ripped it up in front of his face, called him all the names under the sun and threatened to punch him,

i went away a lot as a child to disney world etc and i will be damned if M dosent come with us, i want her to experience the same things and shes a very girly girl, loves princesses, all things pink and loves all things disney.

I do feel that bending the truth is the way to go, is it evil me that i cant wait for M to go to her mums and say we did this and did that,

so my dog has just pushed the cushion of the sofa, if OH asks why its on the floor, im using "cuz its happy"

so many things will never get done now, lol

lara x