Traditions you are NOT doing

I'm not fussed about many of them either tbh.

We're having a best women not traditional best man.

Our flower girl is not carrying flowers, she's carrying the rings,

My dad is not making a speech, my brother is,

I'm not actually worried about OH seeing my dress either!!

I won't be late either Shoe, that's one of my pet peeves!!!

My BMs aren't having bouquets - there's 5 of them, and it just seems like a waste!

Speeches before the meal rather than after

I am seeing OH the day before - thought it was only the night that was the tradition!

No receiving line.

Nothing old, borrowed blue etc

No father-daughter dance- tbh I'd feel a bit odd doing it - I guess we're quite a reserved family.

No favours.

I saw OH the day before the wedding, I thought traditionally though it was not seeing them the day of the wedding itself until you get to the ceremony.

I did not throw my flowers - gave them to my grandma to enjoy as seemed such a waist throwing such expensive flowers, plus I don't like the throwing of the bouquet.

I was not late - never am normally so why should my wedding day be different.

No father and daughter dance.

No real first dance - we did have a first dance but others joined in from the off as we did not want everyone watching us dance - I don't really get it to be honest and always find it boring as a guest.

I'm sticking with most traditions - I like wedding traditions. It's a very traditional thing is getting married and I like the formality of the occasion.

Only thing i'm not doing (that I can think of) is a "new" tradition - favours. Can't stand them - waste of money.

I thought this too so we'll be together until the boys go off to sleep at my bridesmaids' house and the girls will stay with me. More for practicality really so the boys aren't under our feet while we're getting ready in the morning.

I don't intend on being late. I hate the idea of being late and its driving me mad everyone saying "Oh you'll be late". Only if you make me late. Only the photographer is on my side as she wants time to take pics of me and my dad before (she's not coming to the house).

No father/daughter dance (DJ suggested not to as you 'lose' people from the dance floor).

We weren't going to have a first dance but are doing a minute and a half on our own and then asking everyone to join in.

No top table - too many re-married parents to accomodate everyone so just me & OH with OH's kids and then our parents are on the closest tables to us.

I'm not doing a father/daughter dance

I'm not throwing my bouquet

I'm seeing my OH the day before up until 5pm-ish

I'm not having my veil over my face

Think im following all the traditions except having the speaches before dinner! OH wouldnt be able to enjoy the food otherwise! not sure if im going to throw the bouquet or not either. If i did it wold be a wee posey for that. the kinda loose ends of flowers the florist had left!

Oh - fprgot to add - I won't see my OH from the Thursday morning! He doesn't want to see me - adds to the excitement when we do see eachother.

He's an old romantic ?

Not having a veil over my face.

Not throwing my bouquet!

Other half will be seeing me until late evening.

Erm... thinking about it, i think that's it.

Ours isn't very traditional either. We're having fish and chips for a start, and cupcakes instead of a wedding cake with lego cake toppers!!

I do actually have the old, borrowed etc thing but only by chance. I didn't do it intentionally.

Not wearing a veil at all, or a traditional tiara (headband for me)

Not throwing my bouquet - there will be no single ladies there anyway!

As H2B and I have 2 children (shock horror!), I'll be seeing H2B in our house up til 11am on the day we get married (we get married at 3.30pm)!

Not having any bridesmaids, page boys, flower girls etc. Not really having a best man either!

We're not having a top table as we both hate that idea. We'll be sitting on a table just like all of our guests.

No favours.

Not having a receiving line - instead, H2B and I will mingle with the guests thanking them for coming.

H2B doesn't want traditional speeches so he's just saying a few words BEFORE the meal, and then his brother will say a few words too.

Not having a first dance either as H2B hates that idea. Although i'm hoping the alcohol and his friends will change his mind lol!

I guess it all comes down to personal choice. If being traditional makes you feel uncomfortable then don't do it. Have your day exactly the way YOU want it!

I could probably fill this thread!

Im seeing my OH the day and night before the wedding, we are actually going out for dinner with alot of his family, so will see him all night, but will then stay at my sisters

Im not having a veil or tiara

No old, new, borrowed, blue

No receiving line

speeches before the meal

Only me and OH at the first dance then just right into the reception (no parents/bridesmaids/best man invited up to dance)

No father and daughter dance (I didn't actually think that was tradition!)

Not throwing my bouquet

We're not leaving the reception (we're staying in the hotel we get married in)

I definately won't be late (well at least not on purpose!) I don't really see the point of that

OH know's everything about the wedding, bridesmaid dresses, how my hair will be, jewellery, make up, the only thing he hasn't seen is my dress

No flowergirls/page boy

(not sure if this counts, but we're also not having any kids during the day)

And if one more person says to me 'oh you can't not have XYZ it's tradition', I'll poke them in the eye!

Pretty much all of them, just me, OH, mum and dad at ceremony and then dinner for me and OH.

Our reception is on the Saturday night, but more like a party x

I think the only one I am not following is the receiving line. Other than that, like GB, I love traditions x

No receiving line, no speeches, no first dance, no cake (cupcakes instead), no dj or band, no favours (unless you count a cupcake box as a favour!), no old, borrowed etc. Tis not because we are non traditionalists but because OH is chronically shy. Wasn't going to have a veil but after seeing Nanny McPhee 2 yesterday I want an antique lace one now!

No bouquets (for me or bridesmaids!), no receiving line, no old new borrowed blue, am seeing OH till quite late the evening before, no tiara...

and the biggest tradition i have not followed is that OH has already seen my dress!!!

I'm not having a veil, and currently wondering whether to bother with the tiara at all either!!

No receiving line as I think these are incredibly stuffy - we're going to go round and speak to everyone individually throughout the wedding breakfast etc to make it more personal!

No bridesmaids as such, just 2 flower girls (H2B's nieces) - I didn't want any as people always moan about them!

No father/daughter dance (we're not dancers as such - I'm happy to dance throughout the evening with my mates but a stuffy formal dance is neither of us - we'll probably both be on the floor for YMCA though lol!

I won't be throwing my bouquet (not really anyone single of marrying age there, plus we're spending a lot of money on flowers I don't want to throw them!!)

Not sure on Old New Borrowed Blue as yet - and definitely not wearing a sixpence in my shoe (the shoes will kill my feet as it is lol!)

And I definitely won't be late.....I hate lateness, in fact, I usually struggle not to be early so my Mum and Dad have got to make sure I arrive dead on or I'll be there before H2B!!!

I think the only traditions i am doing are the old, new, borrowed, blue and the first dance. we're doing a first dance aswell but I think thats it. I'm seeing OH up until prob about midnight when I will have to leave him to go to my own room.

There aren't many traditions that we're doing. I'll be seeing H2B on the day right up till when we're getting married, no reception or speeches, no family at the wedding - just us, no wedding cake, no veil/tiara, etc.

I think the only things I will have is the bouquet and the "something old, something new..." as H2B's nan made me some earrings and H2B a tie pin.

No receiving line, not wearing veil over face, not throwing bouquet, seeing OH until late the night before, not planning on being late, no page boys or flowergirls

Hummmm let me think........near enough all of them!!! lol!

will be seeing each other the day of the wedding, although we will get ready separately and meet each other at the registry office i guess.

no bridesmaids

no formal meal (cake, champers and silly games on the beach, and a BBQ party later at the house we are renting for us and our families)

no dancing (apart from the drunken dancing in garden after the BBQ has fizzled out!)

H2B will most likey have seen my dress by then

probably no new,borrowed and blue thingy, would only happen by accident.

no bouquet

Not really a 'traditional wedding at all!!!

DG x

These are mine;

Wont be late (I will be gagging to get down the aisle by 2pm)

Brother is giving me away (Havent seen my dad in 20 years)

Dont want to throw my bouquet (although depends on how many sherberts Ive had by then)

No traditional long top table facing everyone just a round one like everyone elses

No veil or tiara

Would desperately love to get out of the 'first dance' thing too........ umm will work on that one!!

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Im not having a "traditional" wedding but would like to maybe incorporate some of the smaller traditions into my day;

something old/new/borrowed/blue - new will be dress, old (dunno, me probably), will prob borrow loads of stuff by then and blue? i like those wee blue stickers that you put on the bottom of your (new) shoes - someone had them on here earlier!

nobody giving me away, no BM or anything like that, no speeches but we are having a meal with family and friends so im sure a few folk will want to say a few words after a few sherries....