Hello everyone,
I'm new to the forum but needed some advice. My parents are very kindly paying for our wedding next year but I feel like this is something of a double edged sword. I do not want to spend money on flowers, a fancy car to the ceremony or expensive bridesmaid dresses - instead I would prefer to do as much myself as possible and spend on the things that are important to us (ie. the registrar and a band). However, my mum wants it to be a proper celebration, telling me its not just about me and my partner, its about both families too.
I agree to an extent and have tried to broach the topic of less expensive bridesmaid dresses, doing my own flowers, tactfully but I feel its not getting through. Worse, my OH is getting angry that our day is being taken over and is threatening to call the whole thing off and pop to the registry office instead. I don't know how to move forward without seeming ungrateful to my generous parents and still get the day that we both want.
Is anyone else in the same boat?