Tricky Situation

Doesn't the hotel have a ramp for wheelchair access?

Our venue have steps leading down to the room for my evening reception and I mentioned to my wedding coordinator a few of my family members have mobility problems and she said they can put their ramps out for all the places that have steps. Its worth asking your venue if they have them.

The stairs are like domestic ones that go from ground floor to first so think they are too steep from ramps x

For such a good price it would be best to work around your Dad even if it means booking him into a nearby hotel with a lift to the rooms. Sounds like you got a great deal there from the venue.

Talk to your dad about it, it sounds a good deal, but how would you feel if your dad refused to come because he didn't want to be carried or anything - would you still want this place anyway?

It sounds like you dont get on too well with your dad, but you still need to consider him. Can he walk upstairs with the stick? if so then no worries. However, for a person in a wheelchair to have to be carried upstairs, it could be quite humiliating/embarrassing for him IYSWIM? Its why we have the disability discrimination act, if the hotel are offering this room for hire, then it really should be accessible to all.

Whatever, you need to speak to your dad to see what he can/cant do, is/isnt comfortable with. x

It sounds harsh, probably because I dont have a very good relationship with my dad, but Id prepare him rather than ask him if its Ok. If he wants to be there, he will not miss it for the sake of some stairs. At some point he will encounter stairs, and at the saving of thousands to you, i think it'd be worth it for him to climb them or be carried.

On a budget, you might not have much alternative. I know you probably feel awful, but if it was the other way around, im sure your dad would feel terrible for you having to give up your dream venue to make it more wheelchair friendly.

That all said, I write this with a history of a bad relationship with my dad who will not be at my wedding. If it was my mum on the other hand, id be bending over backwards to accomodate her, then again like you mum she'd do anything for me.

I am going to talk to him and just lay it out that this is the only place in Budget and that no one will even see him going up the stairs as he will leave before everyone

Thanks everyone!

Thanks thats exactly what i need - That was sort of the plan but with a wheel chair as we use to do this for my Gran x