Ugly crying - Advice OMs

Following because I need this advice too. I well up at the thought of walking down the aisle at the mo and my eyes go all red instantly!

I'm a crier. I was at a wedding saturday and cried A LOT. I cry watching adverts, I cry watching friends, I cry a lot.

On my wedding day? Didn't cry once. Not once. Welled up a bit when my dad saw me for the first time, but otherwise. Nothing.

You'll be too busy grinning from ear to ear to cry! x

I'm worried about this too. I welled up reading the order of service the other day. I also retch when I cry hard, which is especially attractive

My friend is a cryer and she cried a lot the day before which seemed to work because she didn't shed a tear on the day, despite other people around her being quite emotional. Obviously that only works if there is a crying situation the day before, but if you have a rehearsal or something that might be a good opportunity to release a bit of tension.

I am terrified of this. We're both ugly criers and if either of us cry, it's like sneezing, we set the other off. It's going to be ugly.

Oh yes, that's part of not being able to breath for me!

Rod - I really do hope so. I've not ever cried at anyone elses wedding so perhaps you are right and I'll be ok.

I cried a bit at my brother's wedding - I didn't expect to at all. I think for my wedding a lot will depend on where my hormones are at, which at the moment there's just no way of knowing. My H2B is a crier too - we both shed a tear at the end of Lost yesterday (and I've seen it three times before!)

I'm a very emotional person and cry at the slightest thing but I didn't shed a single tear on my wedding day. I smiled all day long, I was just so ridiculously happy.

Lets just hope this is the case for us ATB ? I am a crier as well and cry listening to my entrance music.

I recommend copious amounts of champagne and a cheeky amaretto before you leave haha!

This was a big fear of mine too!! I am not a pretty crier at all! And my dad, although not an emotional man by nature, is a blubber about anything to do with his girls. I was prettified of the soppy mess that I was going to become and even the site of my dad shedding a tear is enough to make be blub like a ten age girl. Our rehearsal was just a couple of days before the big day and then is when and where, my worries came to light, I was a mess!!!! Alas, on the day, because we'd been through the motions already, I managed to stay blubbing free!!!! I had glossy eyes on occasions but no tears down my cheeks. Truly lost in the moment of blissful happiness! My advice, cry as much as you can in the rehearsal and get it all out before!!!

Yesterday I cried because:

My mum said I wasn't to have a bridal handbag "what would you need to put in it?" Every bride I know has had a bag with lipgloss etc. in it. Eugh.
When in church as mentioned
When I came accross some belongings of a late friend that still smelled of her
When I apologied to my mum for shouting at her over the handbag thing

So far, so good for today though!

I welled up when I was standing with my brother before we went in. He just said "Oh for Gods sake, man up" so that seemed to work!

During I was fine until we were exchanging rings and hearing our other reading. I welled up and had a few tears but not proper crying.

Halfway through I heard Hs mum tell my brother off. He was sitting next to my BM so I'd thought they'd got the giggles or something but he was getting all emotional. I really wish I'd had a photo of that, the ones I have, they're all trying not to cry so they all look very bored/serious trying to keep a straight face!

Yesterday I cried seeing my SIL on stage in her dance show.

I also cried hearing Catherine Jenkins singing 'Abide with Me' on Soccer Aid.

I cried yesterday cos my mum is trying to talk me into a long lacy dress, which I really don't want - but I didn't cry when on the phone to her, I waited til later and cried about it to my H2B! And I cried this morning when I left H2B to go to work as he's gone away for a week. It's a bad time of the month though, to be fair.

No advice I'm afraid. I nearly cried while I was walking down the aisle but just about managed to hold myself together (very ugly picture of me almost crying!)

During my dad's speech I was in tears but the tissue I was using managed to hide the ugliness so thankfully looked alright.

Agree with Rod, you'll be too happy to cry!

I'm a crier but didn't cry at all during the ceremony. I only shed a few tears at the end of the night because I was so overwhelmed by what a lovely day we'd had and the effort everyone had made to come!

This for me too, I cry at other people's weddings, tv progs etc but not a single tear at my wedding (I cried at seeing the tog photos after (in a good way!) but not at all on the day)

I'm a very ugly, very snotty crier so I was quite worried too but it was fine.

I did giggle uncontrollably a few times though (something I always do when I'm nervous) and I've discovered I have quite an ugly laugh!

I'm another massive crier who didn't shed a single tear during my wedding. The actual ceremony seemed so surreal, and I just felt like I was floating on air the rest of the day, as opposed to feeling really emotional.

Exactly the same as this. I waterproofed my makeup so much as I'm such a crier normally but I was just grinning so much and so happy I didn't cry at all all day,

I thought this would be me, but no matter how much I cried in the run up, on the day itself there were no tears to be seen (from me)

This was my big fear too ATB.

I am an ugly crier...snot bubbles, gasping for breath etc etc and I was panicking that I would be like this on the day. My sister was a wreck on the morning before her wedding so I was expecting the worst.

I cried during the wedding rehearsal when I was saying my vows so it didn't bode well. I made sure that OH had a hanky in his pocket on the day in case I needed it but when it came to it I was absolutely calm and relaxed. Like your friend's Dad said, I got it all out beforehand!

You will be fine ?

Thank you Otters, that's what I was hoping to hear!

I'm lucky it's not at the wrong time in my cycle, I cry at stuff like not being able to get the lid of the kettle shut!

I need to have a word with my brother and tell him he needs to hold it together. He'll cry during his speech but by that time I'm not too worried as photos will be over and I can hide behind a tissue/large flower arrangement.

I really hope that MF doesn't go at any point during the ceremony. He's definately not the sort so if he did it would set me off!

You'll be far too happy! plus walking up the aisle seeing all your friends and family will make you happy!

plus some drinkie poos before hand! :-)

I'm terrified of this too. Also I'm more of a crier when I've had a drink, but my friends know this so the two who are staying the night before with me will keep me away from the champers that morning.

I've cried at every wedding I've ever been to. Even one where I was a +1 and didn't have a clue who the bride or groom were. But as its a civil ceremony we don't have a rehearsal. (do we?!) so no chance to get it out. Will have to watch weepy films the two days before or my eyes will be puffy.

I am a crier too- I cried at Game of Thrones last night and in angry at having to pay 2 lots of council tax this month!

I wept a little down the aisle as Rev handed me a tissue which turned out to be one of my favourite pictures - especially cause of how my pops is holding my flowers haha

You'll be grand!

PS I didn't have a handbag?!

I'm worried about this too!

Had our rehearsal last night and felt really emotional and feel like on the day with the music playing etc it all seems more real and i'll be bubbling. I see some brides crying a gently rubbing a tear away with a hankie whereas I sob uncontrollably and never cry half heartedly haha!

Hoping it'll be fine though and i'll be too shy to show my emotions in front of other people! I'm sure you'll be fine and your brother won't set you off haha! Luckily my dad would be like "wit ye greeting for?" as if i'm daft so that might stop me haha!

We have a standing agreement in my family that if one of us cries, the rest of us will pretend it's not happening, as sympathy makes us work.

My MUA offers a service where she'll sort my makeup out between church and reception, which I may well be taking her up on!

Oh and my mum repeatedly told me she had enough money in her bag for me to run away. No sentimental moments from her! I would have dropped if she'd cried!!

I cry at everything. Disney movies, especially. Adverts with kittens in... Books with sad endings... Burning my toast in the morning... On my wedding day? Not a single tear. I was too busy grinning like a loon while walking down the aisle and trying not to fall over.

Today:

When I made a hash up of a massive job interview. ( at home, not during it!)

A man sitting outside vet with an elderly dog.

When I was ripped off over alterations with my hen dress.

Because of the above, I was grumpy with the dog , then felt so guilty. She buggered off, she didn't care I'd shouted, only that I was sobbing and hugging her.

When telling MF about the above

Gah