Un inviting someone

Have you asked her outright whether there is a reason she has stopped replying to you or do you think it's because she's just busy?

I have tried but she won't answer anything. She has enough time to write on Facebook about waiting for the weekend and going out so not sure what else I can do

It's a tough one but if you have tried contacting her an asking her whether there is something wrong then I would just leave it an not send an invitation out (as it'll probably go unanswered too).

Just make sure you have literally picked up the phone and tried to call her before you cut ties.

Have called a lot it's been about 3 weeks not sending invited out yet so might wait and see what happens did think about going round but she lives with her parents so could be awkward. Just a bit hurtful meant to be a best friend and as far as I'm aware I haven't done anything. Okay thanks for advice :-)

Hi,

I have a similar situation with a 'friend'. We go back along way, but last summer things started to go a bit wrong and finally came to a head with a massive argument. Between us both we had no contact for months, but eventually I text and said it was a shame we didn't speak anymore. Things were awkward, but I did start inviting her along to things, some of which she came to but most not. At this time I gave her a save the date as I didn't want her to feel like I was cutting ties again, but in the last 6 months, we have had little to no contact on both parts. In all honesty I am not bothered about her friendship now, but didn't no what to do about the invite. We will send them out in January, so I have until then to decide, but I am thinking I just won't send one and I don't think she will be surprised.

Sorry to totally hijack your post with my story ha, but what I am really thinking in your position, is if you are bothered and want to keep up with the relationship then it is worth persevering with, but if you are not, I just wouldn't send her an invite.

How childish! Can I ask how old you both are? It's shocking that grown women will behave like this, you clearly don't have a clue what you've done wrong so I'm guessing it wasn't anything obvious! I would personally not send an invite at all, if you've tried everything you can to get in touch with her. If you only send an evening invite she doesn't HAVE to respond as strictly as she would have if it was a day invite (i.e. people do just turn up in the evening without saying they will!) so there's a risk that you end up worrying on the day, whether she'll turn up either way.

Have you got mutual friends you can ask, see if they know what's up?

Thanks everyone I think I will try and see what happens and if she still doesn't make contact I will cut ties in general. We use to have mutual friends but because I left where we use to work I have slowly lost contact as you do so their isn't really anyone that I would involve in it as she still works there. I think I will do the same as childhood-sweet :-) and then the ball is in her court.

I've got a friend who is a bit like this, we were really really lcose when we were younger/ at college etc and as time has gone we have drifted apart naturally but on the very rare occasion we do meet up it's the same as ever. However she was invited on my hen do which my bridemiads orgainsed and she failed to get back to them time after time, so i contacted her being quite straight and she responded straight back saying she was sorry, having family issues etc, she wouldn;t be coming to the hen but would be to the wedding. Since then she has been invited on other various things and never responded. I don't think you can write them off, I am not 100% convinced she will turn up on the day and it does annoy me, but sometimes it's the way these things go, and we most likely wont have much contact again after the wedding, sometimes these things just happen, and you live different lives, it's not always that there is an underlying issue and she has fallen out with you, just her priorities may be very different to yours.

Good Luck anyway with what ever you decide to do.

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My best friend does this when is stressed, she hides away until she is feeling better, she sometimes answers a call or text during that time but that's about it. Because I know that's what she's like I will try calling and/or texting and offer my support, if she doesn't answer I'll be there when she's ready -could this be the case with your friend??

If you really want your friend to be there then invite her and put a little personal note in with it saying you realise you haven't seen much of each other recently but it would mean the world to you if she was there. Then if she doesn't respond, cut ties. You'll only be in the same position as if you don't invite her but if you don't send it you'll never know.

You don't mention that your friend has a habit of doing stuff like this and goind awol so I would actually be more worried that something was up.

She is okay I have seen on her facebook cause I did worry that at first but she is fine. I will keep trying not going to give up yet was interested in what other people have done or dealt with this situation.

If she is going to Facebook, why don't you write a post on her page or comment on one of her posts asking her to get in touch with you ASAP?

That way there is no excuse she might not have seen it on the other ways you tried to contact her.

Did you try calling her house number?