Our wedding is now only a few months away and for a while now I've been thinking about 'un-asking' one of my bridesmaids. From quite early on it became apparent she saw herself as chief bridesmaid despite me never saying this to her and another friend, also asked to be bridesmaid, independently told me she felt the same. The biggest problems started with dress shopping where in front of my mum and another friend she commented a dress i was trying on (admittedly it wasn't my taste but I knew my mum liked it and was trying to be open minded) was f#$%^ing awful. Loud enough for everyone in the room, including the poor owner helping me, to hear. My mum was seriously unimpressed. When I said I was inviting another friend to be part of the bridal party she was openly very rude about her too and now won't even acknowledge her as coming.
Since then she has fallen out with my sister over my hen do, basically now opting out and has even said to me she hates my sister which really hurts me. I had to step in and speak to them both. My sister tried to clear the air with her after this and basically got told where to stick it! She hasn't paid her share of the deposit which my sister has had to cover (this has been the case for nearly 6 months). She isn't impressed with my choice in bridesmaid dresses (I'm paying everything) but has said so long as she can accessorize it as she sees fit it'll be 'ok'.
She seems to see me as clueless about organising my own wedding and her being there to keep me right as the more fashionable one. There are just so many reasons I can see her being in the bridal party causing rows at both my hen do and on the day but then she has been there in the past through rough times and is excited about the wedding coming (I think!?) it also just seems really rude to uninvite her and I worry it'll probably be the end of our friendship. Sorry i know it's a huge long post. I know I probably need to speak to her but I've no idea what to say. If she'd just even try to make an effort with people but her attitude is that she's some sort of i injured party. It's sad to think a lovely thing like a wedding could mean the end of friendships.☹
