Unnecessary stress!!! Rant (PP)

I would be fuming too so rant away! Tell mum it's 130 a head and you need a definite answer so yu can replace them or save the cost.

Id tell your mum to be ready and prepared to reimburse you £130 then... her friends, her 'games' so she can pay the damage

Oh gosh,

You know, just after I got engaged EVERYONE was telling me how stressful wedding planning is. I was like "noooo surely not, its going to be great fun, how can anyone possibly get stressed"

Then about a month ago, I realised why its SO DARN stressful...

FAMILY!
argh, They drive me insane!

'I want this and I cant wear that. Why aren't you going to invite her? Oh you cant get married then, its a Thursday!'

So I totally understand, we dont mind you ranting at all! We all love our Famalams but gosh... cant they drive us up the wall!!!?? ?

I definitely wouldn't be happy with this!

Make it very clear that you will only take definitely yes/no answers- £130 is too much to place on a 'maybe'.

We had someone pull out of coming three days before our wedding - didn't even tell us herself and got her mum to do it via OH's mum! She's in her late 20s so should know better. We had a couple more drop out last minute due to illness and a death in the family - totally understandable and I had no problem with that at all, obviously I was more concerned about them! But then, another person (and close friend) didn't turn up on the day, missed the wedding breakfast, then turned up in the evening with a right face on and left after an hour! Amazing.

Wow, the sickness and bereavement of course would be much more concerning but to not even turn up.... how rude!!!!

I always thought it was a privilege to be invited to someones wedding, seems others don't feel the same way.

i hope it didn't put a dampener on your day.

You've got every right to be ranting! I don't think anyone has appreciation for the planning, thought and stress that goes in to wedding planning (and budgetting!) until they've done it themselves. It's an awful lot of money to pay for someone who isn't entirely sure if they want to be there - sure you've got a backup list of people you'd much rather be there.

I'd explain that very clearly to your mum. Playing devil's advocate a little, it's not her fault that he's messing things around, but as they are technically your mum's invite, she needs to keep them in line. Try and stay calm, and hopefully they'll see sense soon!

Thanks All

Spoke to my mum last night, he friends partner has now booked their hotel and will be there.

So panic over for now but will still have my reservations until the day about whether he'll turn up or not!!

Honestly, drives me insane..... mums telling me not to stress about it but easier said than done isnt it!!! you'd think she would know having done it twice herself!

Anyway, another day today, wonder what will happen next...

x