Hey girls not sure if anyone else has had similar issue's but...
we had a bit of reality check the other day after speaking to H2B's dad...and him telling me (in a nice way) that maybe i should get a job before we put a deposit down on a venue....bit of background info...
I am still a student (final year and finished in 3 months time when i will be looking for a full time job!) i work part time whilst at uni and i'm pretty good at saving...although i will have my student debt i have no over draft and will have saved a couple of grand when i finish in April....my OH has a good job but is not as good at saving (and also has student debt PLUS his law college debt) we do not live together at the moment because i live where i go to uni and his job is back home...we have been together 5 years and really want to live together but we REALLY don't want to rent (as in our opinion it's wasted money) so when i finish uni we will both be living at our parents houses to save money (5 mins drive) and we can stay over whenever but obviously this isn't ideal...
so the plan is to live with them for about a year and a half to 2 years then hopfully have the money to buy a house between us and then get married in summer 2014 (2 1/2 years away) ...
originally and naively when we got engaged we decided we wanted EVERYBODY there and quickly drew up a guestlist of 150 people that HAVE to be there no matter what....anyway as we looked around venues our £6/£7grand budget for 2014 was quickly eaten up by food and drink prices...
very kindly our parents have said they will contribute £8000 towards the wedding between them as they really want us to save for the house....now i think we should take the 8 grand have a fab smaller ceremony and wedding breakfast (70-80 people which for us is small) and have a huge evening do (150-160 people) and i think we can do this on the £8000 without contributing at all ourselves (or maybe the odd bit here and there)
H2B is insistant that certain people (friends who i think we can do without for the ceremony and WB and just invite in the evening) MUST be there and will not compromise below about 100 people....I just think he's being unrealistic...at 100 people we are looking at about 10grand for the whole wedding AT LEAST and i just think any money we save should be for the house...
so my questions are:
. is anyone else saving for a house and a wedding and think we can do it pretty much from scratch between april 2012 and august 2014? (i don't!!)
. has anybody cut the majority of their 'friends' off the ceremony and wedding breakfast guestlist? our family, family friends and about 3/4 of our closest friends each brings us to around 75 people...has anybody ever regretted not having more 'friends' there or is the ceremony and WB ok to be mainly family?
. has anyone else had a H2B that will not budge on things like this? i thought i was supposed to be a bridezilla not have a groomzilla!! he just seems very unrealistic and unwilling to compromise
. finally has anybody had timings whereby the 'evening guests' arrive pretty early? one way i thought we could do it is wedding and WB earlier then evening guests arrive early evening (5pm ish?) and they can still have some pictures etc a feel a bit more involved in the 'whole day' or is this pointless if they haven't been at the ceremony??
HELP!!!! x