Unsure of bridesmaid

Be completely honest with her. Tell her that you're concerned that you're not convinced she wants to do it & that you wouldnt want to push her into it. I'm sure if you're honest & open with her, she'll be the same back.

It sounds like you're both not fussed, in which case be honest with her and say 'I noticed you hesitated when you accepted the role, if you're not bothered then I am fine with this' and see what she says.

Hiya Hun,

I completely see what you are up against - it is nice to have bridesmaids but not if they don't appreciate what it involves and what it means to you on the day. (Not to mention the cost!)

Perhaps your OH can talk to his sister and just ask if she is still keen to do it - when it comes down to it, it's much easier to ask family outright without offending. It might also be worth asking your MIL to be on her throughts if OH isn't keen to discuss the subject! She might just have been surprised to have been asked, or perhaps she's shy and doesn't want everyone looking at her on the big day...?

Don't feel you have to have bridemaids - ITS YOUR DAY! I am only having one as I have sister - but we actually have a similar problem as my OH has hardly any mates and isn't sure who to ask as ushers etc! I think he feels he ought to do the wedding thing properly...!

Good luck! x

My oh is very diplomatic, and they are close, so I might ask him to talk to her. I hate confrontation, so the thought of bringing it up myself makes me feel physically sick lol

I would definately get him to chat to her - my OH to talk to his mum and tell her to back off which wasn't easy! Lol She was interefering no end! So I'm sure if they are close he can help you sort it!