update on number one child [wednesday]

Swampy, I'm glad things are moving along a bit. Are you okay about the 1.30 meeting, have you anyone for moral support?

Hope all goes well at the meeting and of course with E ?

Oh Tigs mate you know I'm thinking of you all ?. I'm so pleased E will be getting the help she needs, hopefully it won't be long before she reaches a turning point.

I guess there's still some very tough times ahead, especially with Cuke 2 on the way so promise me if I can help in anyway (even if its just an ear to chew) you msn me?

Take care matey (and make sure you look after yourself too)

Positive news Swampy and steps in the right direction. Hope the meeting goes well today. ? for you and E and the rest of the family.

Big internet weirdy hugs for you and E and the rest of the family.

I'm so glad the news is positive. I'll be thinking of you all.

Morning mate,

Hope today goes well. It's a comfort to know she getting/will be getting the treatment she needs to get through this.

Are they thinking of the QE?

xxx

Glad she is getting treatment now and hope she gets better quickly. Big hugs for you and family.?

no - a specialist children's unit in mosely as far as i can make out - tbh they start telling me details and my brain won't take it in ? i keep thinking i will wake up from this nightmare at some point soon......

suppose it might be an off shoot of the QE tho.... will let you know when i know more

xx

Thinking of you all x

I am so pleased she is getting the helpshe needs,

Take care of yourself as well honey ?

It's great they are looking after E really carefully and taking this seriously.

Good on your MIL!

Big hugs to you though ?

I'm glad shes getting the help she needs.

I hope you are feeling a bit better as well.

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Goodness Swamps. Still a lot to take in there, but glad it's positive.

Bless your MIL for thinking of you like that. ?

Keep us posted,and make sure you look after yourself and the bump.

I'm so glad she's getting help - it will make a huge difference. My sister was admitted and had an allocated counsellor when she had a terrible spell of depression many years ago. It changed her life. ?

I'm so glad she's getting help - it will make a huge difference. My sister was admitted and had an allocated counsellor when she had a terrible spell of depression many years ago. It changed her life. ?

i will be - tbh in some ways i will be happier once she is settled somewhere - even if i can't see her for a while - cos at least then i won't be on edge everytime the phone rings.

i also feel better cos i rang my SIL yesterday and told her the full story - made her promise not to tell anyone at all apart from my brother cos i don't want my mum knowing everything - but at least this way i know they will be able to keep mum off my back iyswim.

my mum is worried tho - my brother has throat cancer so this is all a bit much for her to be taking in just now - plus at 79 mental health issues are a bit 'out there' for her - i think i have got her to start thinking of it as an illness same as something like pneumonia [sp] that needs specialist treatment and medication...... that seems to work for her as a comparison so i am sticking with it.

thank you for that - i am seeing it as a positive thing really - is distressing for everyone but we all want her to be better [kids keep asking when i am going to be bringing her home ☹️

Massive hugs for you Swamps ?, I've been thinking about you a lot. A ? for Elizabeth too.

I'm so glad she's getting the help she needs now. I was never an inpatient but my experience of children/adolecsant mental health services is a positive one. I attended the day unit from 16 but know a lot of people who were inpatients and it did really help. That was 12 years ago and I'm sure they have improved even more since then.

Take care of yourself. x

Swampy, I read a lot of positivity in your post and I'm so glad. It appears as if your daughter is getting the help she needs and I hope that things continue to improve.

Your MIL sounds like she's being a star as well.

Lots of hugs for all concerned and hope today is also another positive step forward.

Big hug to you and E

And

That does sound really positive. I've been thinking of you all, take care. I've PMed you too.

swamy, I have been thinking about you a lot all week, as K is the same age as E, and I would be beside myself if this was happening to us. You are incredibly strong and a very brave lady.

I am so glad E is getting the treatment she needs. And I sincerly hope she makes a speedy recovery. It wil be a tough road ahead, but she will get through this, with the love of her incredible family behind her.

And I am delighted at what your MIL has done. What an absolute Star.

You and E will be in my thoughts today, and every day throughout your journey.

right then - back from the hospital with yet another update

the MH people didn't get there til just after 2 - i really needed to leave at 20 past to get victoria at 3 so they ended up seeing me first which wasn't ideal but i didn't have a lot of choice.

they asked loads of questions about her background and i was as honest as i could possibly be - they seem to think that elizabeth is suitable for treatment in their unit and if she is they would probably be looking to move her there tomorrow ? i am waiting for a call back from them once they have spoken to her to tell me what they think/what happens next etc.

I ended up being a bit late going for the kids but i had spoken to the head teacher this morning and asked her to speak to their class teachers as christopher and victoria are missing elizabeth lots and thought the school should be aware of what is going on..... so i rang the school and they told me not to worry and they would hold onto the kids until i got there.

so - just waiting to hear from the medics to see what the outcome of the interview was - hopefully it will be resolved sooner rather than later

mrs jess - we have told the children that elizabeth is just unwell and in hospital and will be for the forseeable future - not sure how much to tell them at their ages - 6 and 4

thank you everyone for your help and support xx

I'm so glad you're getting some help from your family and also from the hospital. Things are sounding brighter, even though I know you must be feeling horrid about E being unwell.

Thinking of you lots. And well done MIL!

Oh gosh, what a lot for you all to deal with and take it [hugs] BIG up for MIL though, bless her that is great.

I hope E does get moved so you can relax a bit knowing she's safe and secure, and that the unit will work round the clock to get her well again.

As for what to tell the littlies, well I'd just carry on as you are - E is poorly, she's not feeling very happy at the moment, no you don't know why, it's nothing that anyone has 'done', it's just happened, but the Doctors are helping her get better and she'll be home soon. Are they allowed to visit her at all, or would that be too much for he to cope with/freak them out? It's so hard when they're so young, and they still want definite answers to everything that you just don't have ('but WHY mummy?' ? ).

Well I'm glad you've got progress in terms of treatment; it sounds like she's going to get some good, specialist help. I hope things look up a bit more soon ?

mrs roo - they saw her on saturday and they are both itching to see her again - victoria spotted that they have fold up beds on the ward for parents who stay over so she told me yesterday that she wants to go and stay with elizabeth to keep her company til she can come home ? cos she really misses her.

tbh elizabeth is fine when you see her - no different to at home - so nothing scary for them to see.

What a fab MIL, that must be a help. It sounds as though they are fairly on the ball with getting E the help she needs. Have you thought about some sort of family counselling for the younger ones? ?

Hope the meeting went well - I hope they can sort out the appropriate help for her.?

It's nice that your MIL lent the car - much easier than messing about with public transport.

elizabeth just phoned me - they have assessed her as suitable to go to the unit and will be moving her tomorrow - am waiting to hear what time etc she will be going and what the proceedure is etc.

she sounds happy about it - fingers crossed this is a turning point for her

I am so glad that things are starting to progress and that action is being taken. And your MIL - what a lovely and thoughtful lady. Rather than just using platitudes she has come up with a practical way to help you, I think that's rather brilliant.

Hugs to you all.

Oh, that'sgood that they are getting to see her and it's not 'scary' (Laura was totally freaked seeing me in hospital when Adam was born, but then she was only 2.5 so that bit younger). Glad to hear she's got a place in the unit, hopefully now she can start the process of getting well, which she sounds like she wants to do. Hang on in there ?