UPDATE pg 2 - freaking out !!!! ?

May I add my whole seating plan is now screwed because it took forever to sit 90 people from 3 families !!

I hear you.

i can understand your anger i really can. its frustrating the T&C's that families come with. Your damned if you do, damned if you dont. I completely lost it on wednesday with my 'drama' and its not nice and its not pretty.

probably not the best advice (since I'm still a touch angry myself) I'm not altering my table plan and I'm not including or accommodating the BF that wasn't invited. i have told them he isn't and if he turns up on the day (highly unlikely), well that branch of the family will have to deal with the embarrassment. they were warned. so you may have to diplomatically tell them the final numbers have been confirmed and you can't alter them. they're will be fallout. sorry :/

I'm probably of no help! ^^;

Phew --- so glad you don't all think I'm crazy! Oh is equally as peed off as me ! It's quite clear to me why it's been done- I'm seeing my mum and grandparents on Saturday so will just say ! I have 9 full tables I can't just do a table just for her and they said no !!!

Bloody annoying!

elixia I am so pleased you have stood your ground!

families ! Can't choose them ey ? X

I don't think your a bridezilla. I think your guests are being rather thoughtless and manipulative. Stick to your guns is what l say!

Yeah, I agree, manipulative guests.

Tell them it's too late now, since they already said they weren't coming. Then if it creates a void in your relationship, then so be it -who needs people like that in their life?

BTW what does your mum think of the situation?

Awwww, I was hoping for a Bridezilla moment. I was disappointed, this is definitely not one.

It's two weeks before. The table plan is complete. Final numbers have been sent. Tell Gran (or get mum to if you think you'll be too cross) to explain that although it would be lovely to have a spoilt brat (maybe not using those words! hehe) at your wedding, it will not be plausible as you have already given final numbers, and you've checked with the venue who have said no.

The only issue is, will Gran then turn around and say she will not be able to come as she has the spoilt brat? You don't want this either.

Yeah I don't think you're being a bridezilla, I think she's a guestzilla! If it makes you feel better it's 'standard' that at indian weddings some guests never ever ever tell you if they're turning up, they just rock up on the day, imagine how annoying that is!!

Oooooh, guestzilla, I like that. *new word of the week*

Hey girls - you've made me feel better. There is no way in a million years my gran and grandad would miss my wedding ( I'm their favourite! ) so brat face would have to stay at home . What annoys me more than anything is that my auntie always palms her off when my grandparents see me and my siblings. Near in mind they live next door so see them all the time and I live like 400 miles away. It's like what you have a daughter now? They book holidays and everything around school time ! Yes my auntie is a nurse and my uncle does something that requires him to work long hours sometimes but it takes the much when my 70 something year old grandparents have to plan their retirement around her !!! I mean they managed before my grandparents lived next door?,?

anyway my mum feels the same so we shall see what happens and I'll keep you posted . No doubt I'll be blackmailed into her coming in the same format as the bridesmaid situation. On the plus side i have the day off work and the future MIL is taking me to see a cupcake lady. ( I'm having a 4/5 tier cake but we want cupcakes too ! - that's my inner bridezilla - haha only joking totally mil's idea) xx

All over this !

Can you say you have finalised your numbers so she can only come to the evening reception? Or I'd be saying the only way she can come is if her mum and dad pay for her meal - say you have already settled based on her saying no.

If she does have to come can you just make one table have an extra setting? Sit her with your strictest relative who won't take her on lol xx

My mums corrections -

Couple of mistakes, sorry. They don't go to st Lucia every year last went 9 years ago paid for by c dad as he has a yacht out there. M couldn't get time off as has to be at least one senior nurse on each shift and one is already off. They don't have a holiday home, just a trailer caravan. Bet do have two houses! Xxxxxxx

maybe I am a bridezilla !

I guess my main point is they said no and now maybe for her ? Grr plus she had a save the date 13 months before the wedding !

Although I understand why you are cross, I really don't think it is worth all this hassle. Let them bring her if they want to.

Look at it from your grandparents point of view, they probably are upset your auntie can't make it and don't want your little cousin to miss out on your wedding.

I'm afraid weddings make people rude, it's just an unfortunate fact. Be the bigger person and rise above it. You won't care on the day. She's a child, she'll squish on somewhere. Don't bother changing your table plan, that doesn't matter. Just tell the venue you need an extra chair on such a table. It's perfectly reasonable that you have already finished your actual table plan and can't change it now, so no one will say anything about the cousin not being mentioned on it.

Your right! It's just the fact my auntie always does stuff like this ! It's a pain in the arse lol x

So going to have to change my seating plan anyway and increase numbers ( which might mean getting rid of the wine!!!)

I only missed two people off by accident - have to add the brat cousin and had a message from a guest saying that although they said originally thy couldn't come as it was mid week they have changed their mind !

So I went from 90 guests this morning to 96 !!'

shoot me now

Think of it as a positive....you originally invited these people and wanted them there. Now they can come bonus. X

I like your thinking x