I have asked my fiances sister if she will be my bridesmaid but she is being huffy as we have potentially chosen 3rdboct 2014 as our wedding day which is 9 days before her 30th - we have explained that it is the most cost effective for us that we can't afford to get married sooner and that I dot want to be a 32 yr old bride as my birthday is in nov . She is saying that the family from Essex won't want to travel down twice in the same month and that she wants to go away but she planned her bros 30th for a holiday in sept and his 30th wasn't till the November. I don't know whether she is being serious or whether she is just being difficult. Xx