Upset over photos I've not even seen

I know it's probably easier said than done but I wouldn't stress out too much at this point. Maybe wait and see what the final images are like. Sounds like there are some beautiful ones there. I would be interested to know if you the shots you mention were included in your 'must have' list you,discussed with your TOG before hand - if they were and you didn't get them then maybe worth having a word with your tog as there may have been genuine reasons why not. As for posting images in drips and drabs before seeing them, a lot of togs post 'sneak peeks'. If you would rather see them all first I'm sure your tog will hold off if you mention it to them.

Hope it all works out - I'm sure it will.

Wait and see what photo's were taken - I'm sure they will be amazing

What does her contract say about posting photo's on FB? I would be contacting her and asking her not to post any until you have seen them

Agree with the others, especially about asking her to stop posting on Facebook.

Also, have you thought that other guests may have captures stuff your TOG missed? My cousin had a really bad experience with her tog (it was our uncle - long, messy story) and still had no official photo's 18 months after the wedding. She sent out FB and e-mail messages asking her guests to send her CDs of their photo's of the day and ended up with a really beautiful and unique album as it was her day presented from lots of different perspectives. She had loads of shots of her with her hubby/sister/family that she didn't even know had been taken as well as group shots of guests that the B&G would never normally get. She also found that a few guests had been lurking around behind the tog so she had a few of the formal posed ones too. (She did get her official photos in the end)

It was such a beautiful album that I've decided to request the same from my guests, even though I have faith in my tog.

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My belief is that the couple should always get the first looksee.....

Peter

My opinion--- my moral compass---- my feeling of right and wrong, the first people in the whole world to see the photos that I took should be the bride and groom.

Email her and ask her to stop posting to Facebook until after you've seen them. I usually post one maybe two sneak peeks shortly after the wedding because I know how excited everyone is to see the photos but then I don't show anymore until the couple have seen them.

Otherwise as others have said, wait until you see the set. You may feel totally differently then. If it's any consolation when I got married last year I was really worried because I barely saw our photographers (two of them) take any photos. I was convinced I'd get only a few and my wife says I was unbearable. Yet when the photos were delivered I had nearly 500 to choose from!

Like you there was a couple of shots with hindsight I regret not insisting on but the day goes by so quickly that unless you have made a point of telling the photographer what's important to you, it's hard to remember on the day.

Thanks for all replies.

I'm hoping we'll have the pics by next weekend so going to try not to think about it too much this week...there's naff all I can do about it either way anyways!

I've decided to put a ps on thank you cards for guests to email us any photos they don't mind sharing too so hopefully we should get a fair few that way. Tbh, I was getting fed up of having a camera in my face after the lawn shots & was glad of the break to be able to go and talk to people. It was only when sitting in bed that night I suddenly thought of the shots we didn't have.

I did give her a list before the wedding of the group shots we wanted but on the day, with so much else going through my mind, the one thing I wasn't thinking about was 'we need to do these shots next'...

Im sending an email today to kindly ask her not to post anymore online as any guests who 'like' her page will have seen our photos before us! I don't mind a signature shot being posted but when it's of the kids, speeches etc, it's a bit unfair! I did ask for a contract and t's & c's but she never actually got back to me regarding this. She's fairly new to the game though...we were her 4th wedding I think. We just loved her style and personality...and the pre wedding shoot with her was great too.

Ok- this i can relate to more than i'd like. a lot more than i'd like.

we missed quite a few pictures which i desperately wanted and my usherette and best man actually shed a tear when one specific shot wasn't captured which was a hard one. i had grand plans for specific shots and i really wanted them and when it dawned on me that we'd missed them i felt hollow and...well to be honest cheated. like something had been taken from me. the opportunity was gone and i won't get it back.

BUT!!!! BUT my friend, hang in there. i won't lie to you, i still wish we'd got the shots BUT the ones we did get make up for the ones we didn't. truly they do. ones i never knew were being taken, take the place of the ones i'd planned and i love them.

wait it out and see what you end up with. the shots you've shared so far lead me to believe you'll adore them.

if it really isn't all you hoped, go back to the tog and see if she's willing to do anything. i doubt you'd get a refund or anything but perhaps a family shoot could be organised, which would a. give you something to look forward to and dress up for now the wedding is over, and would b. give you some gorgeous private shots just for you. you could make a day of it- photo-shoot and dinner out together or the like.

as for fbook- my tog did the same with our engagement shoot- complete strangers were liking pictures of me (ones i hated to boot- i looked bleedin awful in those particular shots!) before even I had seen them! so we spoke to our tog, they removed the pics and with the wedding pics they emailed them to us and checked before posting.

chin up gorgeous girly- you're married now and the adventure is just beginning xxx

I know how you feel. I gave my tog a list of photos I wanted and quite a few were missed. I didn't have a single photo with me and my brother (apart from the group shot).

We set up a Wedpics account before the wedding so quite a few people have put some pics on there. Unfortunately the quality just doesn't compare.