upset with family

I would suggest posting in wedding planning as this place isn;t very busy..but here goes.

I think, to be honest, I would have let your sister know that you were filling the space, but what's done is done and you can't take it back now. Could you make it work, even if it's a bit of a squeeze? If not, do the villa company have any other properties with more rooms that you could upgrade to?

As for it being harvest season, I'm guessing that's pretty huge. I work in finance and would not be able ot get the end of/start of the financial year off work for any reason other than extreme sickness or bereavement - not sure if farming is the same?

Sorry I couldn't be more helpful.

Hiya,

Big hugs to you, I know how you feel. We decided to get married abroad because it's what we wanted & we are happy even though we won't have many guests the same as you. It's the other way round with us, it's OH family that are not supporting him. His parents can't come because of their age which is fine we understand but his sister & brother they have annoyed me. Like you they said they were coming & now they are not, his sisters excuses are rubbish & his brother has gone & booked a family holiday somewhere else which means they can't come. OH has his friend who is bestman, his wife & thats it for him. For me i've got my parents & a few friends & even my boss! There will be 15 of us in total, maybe 17 as we are still waiting on my aunty. Again it's not that they can't afford it, it's just they don't seem to want to spend the money on coming with us, OH is upset but he is still happy with what we are doing & has said it's the last time we support them. It's difficult but like us I think you have just got to understand it's a bit thing & costs a lot of money & at the end of the day we decided to go abroad & we are still 100% happy with it. It's difficult & i'm not sure how I would feel if it were my parents who were not coming but I always knew they would so it was not a difficult choice for me to get married abroad, OH always though his family would be like this so I guess thye have just confired what we though. Big hugs to you & hope you get it all sorted.

Heya

I can see why you're conflicted about it. But really why won't you're mum come if you're sister doesn't??? that doesn't even make sense its you're day not you're sisters why would she need her there? I can see why you're sister is upset about her bf but you need to explain to her that you needed to fill the space...also again its you're day why she can't come without him if there is totally no other option I don't understand.

With regards to harvest season I don't know exactly what happened but its all hands to the pump then so I don't think that is an excuse it is a real reason. Not wanting to sound awful but we scoped our dates out with everyone who I really really wanted to be there before I booked....if you did that and they didn't mention harvest season at the time fair enough they are out of order.........if you didn't say when it was going to be or be prepared to work round it then I'm sorry but it kind of is you're fault.

When we decided to get married abroad we decided we would be totally happy if it was just me and my OH and anyone else was a bonus and we would do everything in our power to make sure that close family can make it.

Whatever happens focus on the fact that is you're and you're OH day and its going to be beautiful and if people don't come they are going to be well gutted they missed out lol

xxx