Well yesterday I paid the deposit on our venue so our wedding is now set.
5th November at the Bobsleigh Inn in Bovingdon near Hemel Hempstead. It was actually the only venue we looked at properly (other than the ones we go to for J's wedding discos). But the Acacia room, the staff and the great deal they're doing for winter weddings swayed us. Along with lots of very good reviews on this site.
Now the rest of the planning starts!