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Venue Dilemma - Posh or basic?

kezzburton, 23 January, 2010 at 14:30 Posted on Planning 0 2

Dear wonderful ladies of Hitched

I am have such trouble finding a location to host my wedding reception due to differences of opinion between me and my OH. My mother is paying for everything and so what she thinks is important to me too.

I would like all of the feeling of a grand affair on a smaller scale for the simple reasons that we dont have many people to invite and we dont have the money for anything too grand. But my OH is only really getting married for me and he doesn't agree with spending much money on a reception. All the while my mother wants a grand occasion because she never got to do it herself.

My mother and I have found a lovely (expensive for our budget) venue but my OH won't even go and see it because it costs too much. He says that if I want his opinion then I have to accept that he doesn't want us to spend too much money on this.

I want to keep peace between my own feelings, my mothers feelings and my OH's feelings. How do I find a happy medium?

Thanks

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Latest activity by Maxibon, 23 January, 2010 at 17:31
  • FelicityChaplin
    Beginner June 2009
    FelicityChaplin ·
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    I think I was having the same dilemma.

    OH isn't all that bothered about marriage, we have a small budget and only about 40-50 people to invite.
    So in the end we decided on something that represents our personalities instead of pompous, over priced and what others expected.

    End of the day you'll never please everyone, so ignore the bleating of others and do what you want to do! ?
    If I tried to cater to everyone's preferences I'd never decide on anything!

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  • CupcakeQueen
    Beginner January 2011
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    How long do you have to the wedding? If you have time before you want to get married then maybe ask OH to find you some venues to go and see that he thinks are more suitable.

    If he will not do that then he has, in my opinion, taken himself out of the decision and I would go with the one you and your mum have seen- she is paying after all so I dont see why it matters

    x

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  • Maxibon
    Beginner March 2009
    Maxibon ·
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    what Laura said.

    bear in mind that its you and OH's day so both need to be involved and happy, but again if he's not coming forward with any ideas then he has no choice but to accept your suggestions.

    i was no help, sorry xxx

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