Venue stress and turning into bridezilla

I don't think your being a bridezilla , its only only natural for you to want to want your wedding to feel unique and special and I do think that's still possible if you have at the same venue , I guess what you may want to consider is how similar they are to you and if they are likely to choose a similar theme etc coz if they do then you might be more upset other than that though I wouldn't worry unless there are any other venues you could consider if you think it might be a worry for you

Tough one!

sorry to hear about your first venue, I hope you did not lose any/to much money.

Regarding the second venue personally I could not get married at a venue one of my friends got married in particularly a month or so after theirs. I also could not set my wedding date before theirs at a venue.

i think it's human nature to make comparisons I do it all the time it's not always just people being nasty eg if I go to a restaurant have an amazing meal and go back a second time and the food and service is not as good you can't help to feel dissapointed and compare it to your first visit.

I would have to keep searching for a different venue I think.

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Hello ? I wouldnt worry about getting married at the same venue as a friend, as the saying goes the people that matter dont mind and the poeple that mind dont matter! I'm sure your day will be just as wonderful on a small DIY budget as thier's will be on a larger budget, i often think that a DIY wedding is much more romantic and much more personal than one where alot of money has been spent.

Not helpful but lol! Can't stop giggling

My only vaguely useful input is that although it may not be ideal getting wed at the same venue as your friend, availability for August anywhere may be hard to come by at this point.

How did I miss this earlier?

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Agree on both counts.

And you say that after looking at twenty or so, it's the only venue you've found. But what about your original venue? Two out of twenty venues that you'd get married in isn't a bad hit rate. I'd keep looking.

I think if it were me i would wait until the following May, the chances of the weather being good in August are slim whereas May is usually nice (that's the reason we booked the may bank holiday for ours). TBH it's your day and it will be completely different to your friends wedding and just because they have more money it doesn't mean that theres will be any better, the personal touch usually adds a bit of something special xx

I see what you mean about 'sharing' a venue. When i found out a friends was looking at the venue we had gone for my inner bridezilla came out - i did feel bad after and later apologised (partly because I wanted my venue to be special to me - as ridiculous as that sounds and also because this other friends had sort of chosen everything so far based on my decisions and what my friend was deciding to do. - the first venue i said i liked she booked straight away. - has since changed her mind) - knowing my luck she will be on here! :/

However I think with all the little touches you can make your wedding completely different. It's not all about money , although i do agree that helps! If you don't mind me asking where abouts in witney did you look? I live close by so have seen a few around the area! I have since gone for stone barn in gloucesteshire just outside burford. (the website doesn't do it justice we werent sure on it when we pulled up - but the second i walked in i knew it was just what i wanted - its quite quirky!

I'm sorry about your first venue but i'm pretty sure you will find something amazing x

I live in faringdon so have looked at venues within twenty mins of this location in both directions- witney lakes is the venue we are seeing on Saturday and seems to of set the standards of what we were looking for. We looked at four pillars in witney too but where told by friends that the food there was not nice at all.

I don't want to be seen as copying either as she has booked it first although my friend doesn't actually know I know as it was our joint friend who works there that told us. Ooh decisions decisions.

need to get somewhere booked in the next couple of weeks as have already booked photographer, supplier to do drapes and photobooth so they need to know venue too

I'm slightly confused by the above!

Anyway, I would try and find somewhere else, because as much as people on here can say "people who matter won't compare the weddings", I honestly think people might. As funky said, you just can't help yourself sometimes. Good luck whatever you decide!

Four pillars is nice for small groups of people eating I would happily go there for a big meal, but as your friends seem to have suggested they don't seem to have the same standards for big groups.

We looked at Witney Lakes, really liked it - for us we didn't go for it because i wanted something a bit different! The lady who deals with all the wedding stuff is so helpful. Anna Cocks I think her name is.

I would just go with what you love x

This was meant to say I would happily go there for an evening meal as a small group but not a big meal ... Sorry I was rushing on my lunch break x

Ooooh Barefoot I just nearly peed my pants!!! :0D

If it was me, I don't think I'd want to pick the same venue as someone else a month after - and I know this might sound silly but if I were them I'd probably be a bit annoyed if someone who was having lots of similar guests to me picked my venue almost immediately after, if they knew it was the same venue beforehand . I think it's only human nature to compare things a little bit and if you're budget/numbers then people are more likely to compare.

Also, even if they wouldn't compare it's about how it would make you feel too - if you're already concerned about people comparing that's only going to build as you get nearer to the date. Also, if you attend their wedding a month before yours and realise they have lots of similar things in the same venue would that stress you out? If it would, then it's probably worth passing on it.

You've still got time to find a venue so my advice would be to carry on the search. Sorry to hear about your first venue and hope you find the perfect venue soon!