Venue too far??

Hmm - I think I would, if there was affordable hotel rooms for me to stay in. Obviously it would also depend on my relationship to the bride and groom.

If driving, there's going to have to be the designated driver if they're not staying - I tend to find I would leave earlier if I wasn't drinking.

40 minutes isn't too bad of a distance though really. My parents got a return taxi to my sister's wedding venue (thinking it was about 40 mins maximum - it was 1.5 hours and they were charged £70!

I think I would too. Are there any hotels nearby for them to stay in? Our reception venue is about 30 minutes away from the church, but luckily there are a few hotels really close.

I wouldn't worry too much though, if people want to come they will find a way to make it work ?

40 mins isnt that much of an issue in my opinion as, people can just buddy up if they know each other and get a designated driver and a lot of people travel that long for work these days to put some perspective on it.

My venue is well over an hour away so we arent having evening guests as its not fair as we arent having a disco as neither of us dance and its mostly a family affair with a handful of friends each, but if I were invited to a wedding 40 mins away I would go to it.

I've travelled Mrs than that for an evening reception and decided in advance who was driving. We wouldn't get a hotel room for 40 mins drive but then we don't care about not drinking. If we wanted to drink we would stay n a hotel as we do when visiting family further away. Mght only be an issue for people who don't drive. If you love it book it.

Thanks everyone ☺ we love it and we have exclusive use including all 12 bedrooms which we would use for family. I've looked and there are 4 hotels within 3 miles so hopefully we will be OK. We are only having a small wedding with 50 people and the other 30-40 would just be evening so obviously we want them to come. I know I'd travel that far so I hope others would. You've made me feel better about it. X

We have guests travelling over two hours for our evening reception! Completely unexpected as we just invited a handful of evening guests who we wanted to include but did not expect to come all that way but they are all coming, which is so nice! They are just going to make a weekend out of it - sight see during the day and join us in the evening. You'll be surprised by how far people will travel if they really want to be there xx

Definitely not an issue, I've travelled that & further for weddings, day & night only! We were about 40 minutes from everyone for our wedding as we live in Manchester & our family are Stoke or Rossendale, everyone had to travel. People pre booked mini buses to do more trips, some stayed over - no issue for anyone! Book the venue you love!!!

I would. I think that's quite normal as most wedding venues are out in the sticks. We are getting married 40 mins from home and we have 40 evening guests. No idea if they are all going to come as we aren't getting married until next year but I would be surprised if people refused based on the distance x

I'd travel for it. I'd either find a cheap hotel or if I had other friends going arrange a taxi share. It's not a regular occasion it's a wedding and I would make the effort for someone who had included me in their day.

Our venue is 45 mins from our house. Our guests are staying in a travel lodge about 5 minutes away, cheap as chips! So far no one has declined our invites based on distance. Our evening guests all RSVPed a lot sooner than our day guests as well!x

Definitely hasn't been an issue for me in the past either. I live in Herts and have been to many different counties for weddings before - the Midlands, the west country, London, all over and for both day and evening invites.

We're marrying in central London in a few months time and have guests coming from Scotland, Yorks, Devon - even Cyprus! I was also a bit concerned about having it out of our home town at first, but the venues we found in London top trumped everything on offer to us locally AND they were considerably cheaper (which you would never believe, being right in Central London).

So my advice is book where feels good for you - your guests will definitely come!

• ExpensiveOrangeCars624 - our venues sound very similar It might even be the same one & if so then good taste hahaa! Our venue is about 40 minutes from where we live, probably more towards an hour for the majority of my friends/family. It never really occurred to me that the distance would be an issue (perhaps it should of - oops!). I guess I have always assumed that the people that want to be there will make the effort to do so & make the necessary arrangements in advance. I would do for anyone's Wedding that I wanted to attend. When we send out our invites we are going to send details of the handful of hotels that are reasonably priced & no more that a 10 minute cab journey away just so that people are aware that it is an option. It might be worth seeing if guests are able to leave their cars at the venue over night even if they aren't staying? Especially if there are hotels nearby where they could just jump in a cab to?

I would certainly travel that far. Childcare would dictate whether I got a hotel or left early to get home. Back in the day (life before kids) I just turned up in a camper... Effectively bringing my hotel room on wheels - ha ha!

I'm intrigued where are you getting married? We have booked Kelham house. I'm definitely going to put hotel info in the invites and explain that they can leave their cars at the venue. X

Our venue was 1 hour 20 away from home and we had the same worries, too far for evening guests. So we binned the idea of evening guests and invited our 'evening' guests for the afternoon too, almost immediately after the ceremony. Some stayed in local hotels, some went home. No one refused to come because of distance.

We've had similar thoughts, but as we both grew up in different towns, wherever we picked would have been a long way away from someone. So we're now getting married somewhere in between the two, which would probably be a 40 minute drive potentially for each group of friends, but it was the best we could do!

I'm hopeful that evening guests will all still come - I am going to put hotel details with all invites, there's no large hotels nearby, more a handful of smaller B&Bs & guest houses etc, & we're not sure yet where we're staying either, but hopefully something will work out soon! ?

Oooh it isn't the same - ours is called 'That Amazing Place' & is in Harlow. They just sound so similar hahaa! I have had a sneaky peak at your one online & it looks fab!xx

Not too far at all, we went to an evening only which was 30/40 mins away as it was 10 mins from their house and I just drove it as I knew the route fairly well and with our wedding 2 weeks after trying to save the pennies. Not everyone lives in the same place so if it's 40 mins from you might only be 10 mins for other people so they might be really happy