Venue without meals....help

Hi ya

Venues that allow catering are few and far between other than church/community centres etc. However on option that i have looked into is hiring a cottage for the weekend that has a large garden. You could then have your closest family stay in the cottage and they pay for their accommodation which pays for the venue hire plus you can do your own food. You can either look at putting up a marquee or just put up party gazebos and hire in the furniture from marquee companies. There are companies that you can contact who would allow weddings such as

https://www.iknow-uk.com/scotland/holiday-cottages/wedding-venues

https://www.aswanley.com/wedding-venue-overview/aberdeenshire-wedding-venue/

https://www.countrycottagesonline.com/scotland/edinburgh

How much money will you lose though regarding a deposit? The cost of the money you will lose, is it less than the difference in the cost of a sit down? If yes than look elsewhere, but if not, then you might as well thank MIL2B but say it won't be viable

HTH

Ruth

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Thanks Ruth,

I'll pass that idea on i dunno if its something she'd go for though or not. I think the cost of the meals isnt that bad 1400, but if they want it next year its not feesable. Although theres a bit of history with mil and i'd of thought she would of offered to contribute to cost of meals since they cant do her buffet but she seems to (in my opinion) being really unreasonable to my BF as she had fallen in love with this venue. (and it was really cheap and affordable to them)

anyway i digress...

TBH if I were her I would say that it's too late and this is the venue they are choosing and they will have the sit down. i know that this is easy for me to say. But as a planner I come across difficult mum's and you do have to put your foot down sometimes. If she really loves the venue, then she should have it. Also, it is kind of her MIL2B to offer however, cooking a meal for a very large amount of people is all very well and good but you also have to employ staff to serve and clear. The last thing she wants is for her guests to have to clear their own plates and then wash up and clean at the end. Personally, I don't think it's very practicle. How would the MIL2B be able to relax and enjoy the day?

I hope she sorts it out!

Ruth

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She needs to tell the MIL the venue is a done deal and it isn't up for discussion! Also Ruth's point re: her enjoying the day and not having to run round doing the food etc. Another good idea if to trade off that responsibility for something else like organising the flowers or the favours etc.The great thing about choosing your own caterers (I am doing this) is that there is such a wide selection in terms of budgets and what you can have. We are opting for the traditional sit down meal type thing but if we wanted it we could have a buffet, a barbeque, a hog roast or even sushi!

I was talking to my gran about her children's weddings and it was always the way that the family women did the food - she finds it a bit strange that she won't have to make any sausage rolls for the next generation's weddings but I wouldn't put it past her to not turn up with a jar of pickled onions!!!