Wearing my ring but not married yet!

Each to their own, I probably wouldn't but I don't have an opinion either way on whether anyone else does.

Its your choice and if it feels right then what else matters...

It may be a case of the green eyed monster.

No. I managed to save wearing mine for the wedding day I had never worn a wedding band and it felt quite nice for it to be put on during our vows. But whatever you want, really.

A note: you have a sig that says you are eloping. Is this a secret from your family? If so, it might be odd that they see you wearing a wedding ring? Perhaps that's causing some cognitive dissonance? If it's not a secret, how is it "eloping"?

I didn't. For me it is the symbolism of the ring that is special. Wearing it before it had been blessed in the ceremony on the day would have felt empty.

We are going abroad and getting married and we have not told anyone or invited anyone, not that we have much family, both sets of parents are no longer with us hence we decided abroad otherwise we would be spending money on Aunts and Uncles who we have not seen for 10 years or more.

My siser is my only close family member and she knows we are getting married but she assumes it is next year, I just haven't said otherwise as I know she will just take over and we are very different.

So we are kind of eloping ..... I told the cat!!

So is it possible that you are now seeing confusion/upset/dismay at her exclusion? It must be quite hard for her to know you're doing it without her, then to see you wearing a ring and referring to each other as husband and wife, and wondering if you've actually already done it and not told her...Does she actually know she isn't included?

WSS.

I personally wouldn't wear mine before my wedding day but that's because the ring has a big meaning to me.

Do whatever makes you happy at the end of the day.

I think it's probably more likely that she just doesn't get it. Understandable, I think?

Obviously you do what you want to do though!

No I didn't. I saw it as something very symbolic of the day itself, otherwise to me it would just be like any old ring.

I can't see why your sister would be jealous. If she thinks you're not getting married until next year she probably thinks you're as mad as a box of frogs.

This. Very odd to wear the ring in advance. And your sister can't be jealous of something she knows nothing about. If I may venture, perhaps you want her to be jealous and she actually isn't? Not everyone on the Earth is jealous of brides to be, you know.

Agree with the others, the sister must be confused out of her brain. She's either gutted she's missed out on being included in the wedding or she thinks you're weird for wearing a ring without getting married. She doesn't know what to think and doesn't like to ask.

And I'd also say I think *personally* I'd find it quite unspecial after the wedding if I'd had it completely secret with no guests and then not even have the novelty of wearing my wedding band for the first time and feeling married, but each to their own and fair enough if that's really what you want.

I don't get it if I'm honest. You're not married yet so to me you shouldn't be wearing your wedding rings and calling each other husband and wife because you're not if that makes sense

No. Why would I wear something that represents a commitment that I haven't yet made?

I'm with everyone else on this. Personally I wouldn't wear mine in advance. I don't think of us as husband and wife yet in that we haven't had the wedding or said the vows. I'm looking forward to marking that moment when we do become married and I'm looking forward to wearing the ring and it feeling special as it did when I first started wearing my engagement ring.

Also with everyone else on your sister. She probably is just really confused.

We were legally married 8 days before our wedding day. We didn't wear rings in the interim. It was all about the ceremony, the symbolism, the special day.

Each to their own, but I find it a little odd and understand your sister would have done too, especially in the circumstances.

I think putting my ring on on the day is one of the things I'm looking forward to the most ! That symbolic feeling of wow this is it !

Personally I wouldn't want to take away from that and I find it a but odd you are wearing them already ! But that's just my opinion ... X

Im sorry i just read this and just thought what on earth?

i dont think its jealously i think its confusion

this.. why would you want to wear your ring way before saying I do? isn't the whole exchanging of the rings on the day one of the most significant part of the day.. well it was to me anyhow..

I wouldn't, I think if its not that special that you wear it before hand and call each other husband and wife already, why actually get married?
Like everyone else says though personal choice and each to their own. I have to say though if I was your sister I'd be the same sorry, and it wouldn't be through jealousy. I'd probably be feeling left out in the dark and not understanding the situation.

Really? Fair enough.

Dont think your sister is jealous at all.

Personally no, I wouldnt want to wear my wedding ring until my husband had placed it on my finger in front of all the people in my life who are special to us. But then there is no way on earth I'd ever elope either. I dont know what your sister is feeling but I know I'd be terribly confused by my sister wearing a wedding ring without getting married first! As others have said, each to their own so its your choice, just not something I could ever do.

I cant say its for me. Whats the point of getting married then if you already consider yourself to be?

I imagine your sister was more confused than jealous. I know I would be.

I read this thread earlier today, and was bemused as to why on earth it made any sense to me to wear rings before the event....but i held back from posting to thik about it...

I've thought about it... I still don't get it

I am guessing your sister is also confused about it, i wouldn't think she's jealous, just confused too

This. Can I ask why you're actually going through the process of a wedding if it's just the two of you and you already consider yourselves to be husband and wife?

I also have to agree with the consensus that she is probably confused rather than jealous, because she's either baffled that you're wearing your rings a year in advance or she's put out that you got married already without telling her.

Surely its not a wedding ring then. Just a ring you're recycling for the wedding.

One last thing...I could put on a tiara and call myself Queen Elizabeth, doesn't make it true.

I remember the little happy flip I had in my tummy the first time H referred to me as his wife after the wedding, I actually feel a bit sad for you that you won't have that feeling because it won't be a novelty anymore by the time you actually get married. But oh well, like you say, it's your choice.

Ouch!

That my have come across a bit harsher than it was intended. I apologise. I do think it makes it less special though.

It is though isnt it? Surely a wedding ring is something you are given on your wedding day? I know people wear rings that they take off and put back on again to get married with but then they aren't wedding rings? They are rings you got married with- two different things I say

I'm super excited about my wedding ring, but I don't think I'd wear mine before I actually got married (apart from sneaky looks at how well it sits with my ER!)

Not sure I understand why you're getting married legally if you already feel you're married, are eloping rather than doing it in front of your family and already wear your ring? It seems like you don't need the legal bit?

Shame there's not a 'whateverrrrrr' icon.....

I'm super excited about my wedding ring, but I don't think I'd wear mine before I actually got married (apart from sneaky looks at how well it sits with my ER!)

Not sure I understand why you're getting married legally if you already feel you're married, are eloping rather than doing it in front of your family and already wear your ring? It seems like you don't need the legal bit?

If you're happy wearing your rings and calling each other husband and wife pre-wedding that's nice for you, but doing so and not explaining to your nearest and dearest is a obviously going to be confusing for them and yes they will react strangely towards you because of it. If you want your sister to express some kind of positive reaction about your ring you need to actually explain to her what's going on otherwise she will probably just think you've a)gone bonkers or b)decided she isn't important enough to tell that you've gone and got married when you haven't. I'd be a bit pissed off at you too.