Wearing Myself Out

First of all I'm so sorry to hear this that's awful news, I feel like you're doing amazingly well, I know that I would probably not have managed all you have in the time you've had. I think that you're going to have to try and stop thinking about it, so anticipating it and just experience every moment that you and she have got left. A friend of mine didn't get the chance, because she was working in a different country her mum didn't tell her she was sick, she came home to a terminally ill mum and so little time. Your mum will do get best to be there, you know the worst case scenario, try not to fall on it, tali your mum through all the details and try and believe that she will be there, it will help your mum. If you need to sit and cry, shot with your OH and let it out, I'm sure that will be OK.

You will still have your wedding, your mum will want you to, and if the day gets emotional your OH sounds so very understanding and awesome, I'm sure it'll be OK.

Sending all my love and best wishes your familiy's way, keep going as best you can, but you don't have to be the strongest woman on earth x

I'm so sorry you've had such bad news. Dnt feel selfish about your wedding. It's a very important day n your life and as you say it's a little bit of sanity in a world that's been thrown into turmoil. Your mum wants you to be happy. Talk to her about it, make her feel a part of it. Grieve and cry when you need to because in these situations we grieve even before we lose people. Cancer does that to you. In the year I've been n hitched your situation has happened to a few people so I hope they spot this and can give you some support. There is always someone on here to talk to even if you only want to vent or have a cry. Xx

The way you feel is a normal reaction to the awful stress you've had recently. It might be worth seeing your GP, especially if you're having problems sleeping.

Also, getting out for a walk in the fresh air each day can help too, even if it's just for 10 minutes.

So sorry to hear about your mum, it's no wonder you are feeling the way you are. Could you afford to get a wedding planner to help finalise so that you are not doing all the work yourself? Even maybe a close friend who you can call on to help. x

I'm so sorry about your mum. It's no surprise you feel the way you do, but like the others have said, you don't have to be strong all the time. If you need help, ask for it from family or friends or you will end up making yourself even more ill. Just try and enjoy all the time you can with your mum xx

I can't add any more than all the other people before me have posted, very wise words from everyone above, but be kind to yourself, sounds like you've got such a lot on your plate at the moment - please don't feel guilty xxx

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. You have an awful lot on your plate at the moment. As others have suggested maybe call in the services of a wedding planner, or even close friends. It might also be worth you having a look on the Macmillian website or giving them a call for some practical and emotional support. Their website is http://www.macmillan.org.uk and their telephone number is **** 00 00