wedding causing headaches already :(

I REALLY feel for you, I know the advice of... If you want your dad to do a speech and only your dad then just tell your mum that... Is easier said than done. But really that's the way it is. It's lovely that your mum and step dad have given you money but it's a gift and should come with no stipulations (or shouldn't do anyway) is there anyway you could involve your step dad any other way? Maybe a reading, or better still get him to write his own reading as part of the ceremony? Hope things sort themselves out xx

Thanks MrsApples - thats quite a good idea to see if he wants to do a reading instead. it annoys me that my Mum hasn't thought about it though and said no - she even said that he has already started to write it :-\

Was step-dad involved in your upbringing at all, or did he marry your mum after you left home? If he was involved, he may really want to do a speech as he loves you, and remembers you as a little girl etc. Similar reasons to your dad really.

Yeah well he was there throughout the teen years so probably the worse time! I think its also because he doesn't have any children of his own so sees me as a daughter so I can understand why he would want to but I just think it will be a little awkward for my dad to hear another man talking about me like he is my dad - my dad's always been there so it's not like he ever had to take over the dad role at all. I'm lucky in a way I suppose but still doesn't make the situation any easier.