Wedding dance choreographed?

My auntie is a keen dancer and so I think we're going to get her to teach us a few steps - if we can get our schedules to match up! Nothing to fancy just so we can open up a bit rather than do the cuddly side step shuffle lol if we don't get to meet up with her though the cuddly side step shuffle it is, OH may throw a twirl in there if I'm lucky haha

The OH didnt want to hug and waddle for 4+ minutes so we devised a dance ourselves. We did a lot of research on Youtube, stole moves from other newlyweds, practised quite a bit in our garden, whilst out on dog walks (much to the amusement of strangers) and on the night, we surprised everyone and even threw in a lift at the end ? It wasnt Strictly Come Dancing but we enjoyed it and we're glad we put a bit of effort in x

OH wanted us to have dance lessons, especially for the mad song he has chosen us to dance to LOL! Its not really a slow dance lets say. We are having 4-5 lessons starting middle of July and we get married 2nd Sept 2012.

Obviously it's your choice ultimately, but I thought I'd give another point of view.

I went to a wedding a couple of weeks ago where the Bride and Groom had a waltz style wedding dance they had learnt, but it just didn't work... They were nervous, I could see them counting the steps and they were very still and awkward looking... For me, it ruined what is meant to be the loving, romantic moment between the newly married couple, and I bet it'll look even more awful on the wedding video.

If you're both natural dancers and confident to do it, then great, but if not, perhaps give it a re-think?

I hope you enjoy it whatever you decide to do. xxx

Jimjams - you make a good point. We were really wary of this and tried to make our dance look as natural as possible. We did talk through the steps whilst we were dancing but we tried to make it out like we were chatting / having small talk. We've seen a video of our full wedding dance and thankfully, we dont look awkward.

I think anything too choreographed can be a bit cringe particularly if it is not executed very well (bad visions of dirty dancing)

If it helps to give you a bit more confidence on the day just to learn a few steps then i think its a great idea but i also think its cute to just sway happily together without the need for fancy footwork.

We're debating this. OH hates dancing so wants us to learn something so I need to sit down with him at some point and work out what exactly he wants to do.

We went to a wedding last year and the bride and groom had made up their own sequence for their first dance. Problem was she hates attention and he got stupidly drunk so kept mucking up. All you could see was her saying, 'I hate you' repeatedly and it was so very awkward and cringe worthy. That's what we're trying to avoid!

We had a fully choreographed routine to Fly Me to the Moon. It was great fun learning, and all our guests said it was fab to watch. Don't have our video yet but here are a few flashes

Totally agree funk! It's kind of expected now anyway..... the surprise element has gone

No chance! I can dance. MrMini refuses to try. Actually I prefered out "swaying about and looking at each other approach" had I married another dancer I would have possibly thought about it.

I want us to wing it, but I think OH is a bit worried and wants us to have some dancing lessons. I really prefer the thought of us having a little sway about rather than going for a full on routine, but I am happy to give it a go if he actually remembers to book any in the few available evenings we have left before the wedding!

I can dance; my OH can dance (we used to run a dance company together and have choreographed wedding routines for other couples) BUT we're not choregraphing anything. Whenever we have tried 'set' moves, I get really cross because I have a mathematical brain and remember exactly what we should be doing and when... OH likes to ad lib and change moves and I HATE it ? so we'll be winging it.

aye sure you're ok then. if he runs on 'man-timeframe' he'll not book it and then you can do the little sway about anyway...?