Wedding for Two?

Our ceremony is also quite small with just 17 guests (but 150 later!) but just us two is too intimate for us!

Personally, those picture look like they spent all day trying to look beautiful and having pictures taken of themselves! They are nice, arty pictures but they look very posed an unnatural (and like they aren't enjoying themselves very much).

We are having six guests and us. OH has a massive family so we have kept it as small as we could. We are having a meal with just four others and then at night we are having a party for 80. That way we both get a nice intimate ceremony and the family get a party.

Originally we wanted just the two of us in London but it ended up you have to reside there for 7 days. If we had done it just the two of us I don't think we would have made such a big deal it would have been much more low key ie no wedding dress, informal photos.

S x

Yes upon reflection it must have been quite uncomfortable for the TOG to shoot with just the two of them as the saying goes "a spare prick at a wedding"must be very hard to do reportage style photography in such an intimate setting.

WSS.. looks like a shoot for a mag lol

H and I got married in Gretna after we had had alot of family strife. It was lovely and intimate.

ETA - We did have witnesses but I didn't really notice them.

Our original plan was to have just immediate family, plus a friend each, which would've worked out to be about 12 all up. I honestly would've preferred that- I don't want a fuss made over me! (I'm quite shy) Unfortunately family expectations (eldest daughter's getting married! she must have all the things! wait, weddings cost what?!) and circumstances (FH wants a "pretty" register office. The only pretty ones anywhere near us don't accommodate enough people) mean we're probably going to have a bigger wedding. Still under 50 people if I can get my way, though.

Agree with both the above.

Whilst I think it could be done, and well, this doesn't look right.

I think for me, there's something about even having a photographer there that inherently contradicts the intended intimacy.

To me, there's intimate, and then there's lonely / uncomfortable.

I may be against the grain here, but to me, a wedding is about more than just me and H2B. We KNOW we love each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together - we have our marriage to be intimate with just two of us. To us, our wedding is about declaring our love in front of other people that we love and who will love and support us as a couple. So we wouldn't want to do it quite that small!

My bro got wed with just 2 witnesses, came home and told my folks ''we just got wed'' it went down like a lead balloon- i would'nt like a wedding with just me and oh - i loved my day spending it with the 67 we had day- but our original plans were a nyc wedding with just immediate family and close friends who would have traveled over

At first the photos are really loveley and romantic, but then they just seem to go on and on and on....

I agree totally 50s!

The old cliche "Its your day, do what you want" doesnt sit with me.... I am essentially throwing a huge party for 100 guests, and if it was for anything other than a wedding, my primary concern would be that they all had a good time, so the same goes. Yes, it is what we want, it is personal to us, but it is about celebrating with everyone we know and love and making sure they all have a great day too!

Like others have said, it looks lovely but a bit soulless, it just looks like a wedding magazine shoot rather than an actual wedding. If I was going to be just the two of us I'd find it a bit awkward having a photographer hanging around.

Definately agree the photos are stunning, but look so posed as if it's a photo shoot. Also if it was just two people I could see the point of having a photographer but ALL day?! Surely you would be a but fed up of posing for photographs?!

Our wedding consisted of us 2 (obviously), my 2 boys, and our 2 witnesses, all day. No extra "guests" in the evening as we didn't have a reception.

One of our witnesses was also our tog.

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I love this sort of thing. You need to remember that most professional photographers (hopefully) have a wider experience of photography than just shooting regular weddings. For example, this week I have shot wedding dresses for a bridal company, and a all day portrait session with a disabled couple. Certainly the smaller weddings I have shot have generally had a much more intense and romantic feel to them, and as a photographer you can work with that feeling in a really positive way.

One of the most memorable weddings I shot literally had 8 people at it - the brides close family, and the grooms close family - Both families booked in the hall for 2 weeks, and they got married on the Friday at the end of the first week. By which time they were all totally chilled. That was a totally intense and powerful wedding

Just me and my h2b at our wedding and I can't wait. I just want to be his wife.....

For me personally I can't get my head around a 'wedding for two'... unless perhaps if you go abroad, you HAVE to have witnesses, and either you pick strangers from the street (which is fun and 'romantic', but I'd feel weird about having strangers there but nobody who loves us or even knows us) or you have some family/friends, in which case it isn't really a wedding for two, is it? It's a small wedding, sure, but not 'for two'. Or you have a tog/other supplier as witness, but the same 'objections' (for me) as with the strangers apply.

For us a wedding was the opportunity to declare our commitment publicly to our friends and family. And have a party ?

I wish we could elope but both sets of parents would be very hurt at not being included. In the end we are having 35 including us, and a very small low key wedding (nice hotel marriage room then pub) but other people's expectations have been hilarious. They have been so obviously shocked when we said only immediate family were coming, and we were not having a wedding cake or wedding car. I keep having to remind them that it's our day not theirs, and we're only paying for that we will appreciate on the day! (Although I'm a bit tight, if I could take them to macdonalds instead I would, lol!)

Some mixed views on here good to hear from different perspectives.

I think at the end of the day each to their own when it comes to wedding size as long as your happy with your wedding and good to hear that no one has had any regrets about the size of their wedding.

Regarding the photos I think the fact the setting is very rich and is the type of thing you would find in a magazine adds to the magazine type feel but I see not to everyone's taste i personally loves it.

Same as us - just me and OH in the Bahamas - we are having a party a couple of months after we get back though to celebrate with friends and family.

WSS. I believe it's entirely up to you to do what feels right. I can see it just being the two of you if you go for a destination wedding, but I'd personally feel I was cheating all my family and friends if I weren't to have at least some sort of blessing/celebration with them. After all, they are a huge part of my life, too and have been there alongside me with their love and support on my journey to becoming a Mrs and will continue to be there in the future.