Wedding invite wording

To be honest, who pays (or doesn't pay) what shouldn't really come in to it. Do you really want to exclude your groom's parents simply on the basis of finance?

Your wording should probably be something like

(bride and groom) together with their parents (brides parents) and (grooms parents) would love you to join us to celebrate our marriage on (date, time) at (location) followed by (etc).

The alternative, and the traditional manner if you really want to exclude the grooms parents from the wording, should be something like

(brides parents) would love you to join us to celebrate the marriage of (bride and groom ) on (date, time) at (location) followed by (etc).

You do sound a little bitter and resentful of the fact the groom's parents aren't contributing financially - and I'm sure there is a good reason for this. I'd suggest you address the issue before it becomes a problem - wedding planning is stressful enough as it is, and any potential for argument needs to be nipped in the bud early - as it should be, of course, throughout your future life together.

I agree that you shouldn't exclude the grooms parents... we have received a few invites recently and they say (bride and groom) together with their parents(no names) would enjoy the pleasure of your company on their special day... etc.

Hope this helps x

They just think it is the job of the brides parents to pay for the wedding and have therefore point blank refused to make any contribution even though they are very comfortable financially.

We both feel that the wording should say my parents (bride) and us but just dont know how to word it. We feel that as they have been so vocal in it being the brides parents responsibility they should not receive credit for hosting. Its hard to understand their reasoning - we get on well with them and they are pleased about the wedding.

As AJ said, finance doesnt come into it really. It's what you both want that counts. Traditionally, invites come from the brides parents but if you would like to host it with your parents then I would suggest the following:

Together with their parent

xxxxxxx & xxxxxxxx

Request the pleasure of the company of

_______________________________________

...

Thats what I would recommend.

HTH

Nat

If you go down the traditional route then I would just say

Mr Brides mother & Mr brides father

request the pleasure of the company of

_________________________________

And leave it like that. Otherwise it gets too wordy and complicated.

Nat

Traditionally, it is the responsibility of the brides parents to fund weddings, although it's certainly rare these days, and more often than not the couple themselves bear the brunt of the costs of the wedding.

I really can't help but think it's going to raise a lot of questions from the guests that I'm sure none of you really want to give answers to, as to why it's not from both sets of parents.

To achieve what you want, the only option I can think of is to just have (brides parents) together with (bride and groom) invite yadda yadda.

We're getting no significant help (financial or otherwise) from any of our parents (my parents are remarried so there's 3 sets) towards our wedding, but we still stayed with the invitation from, and rsvp to, the brides parents as is tradition - even though they just passed on all the responses to us and we then acknowledged them and recorded it all in our database.

I think in this situation I would go with the traditional wording:

Mr & Mrs John Smith

Request the pleasure of your company

at the marriage of their daughter

Karen Ann

to

Mr Joe Adam Bloggs

at So and so church

on Saturday 12th June

at 2.30pm

and afterwards at the So and so hotel.

Or something to that effect...

We're in a similar situation, though my in-laws' reasoning is different - they just think it's "silly to spend so much on a wedding." They have, however, been very supportive in other ways during the planning, and gave us some money when we moved in together, so I don't really have any hard feelings over it. We went for "Together with their parents, Helen ****** and Will ****** request the pleasure of your company..." I know it's traditional that the bride's parents issue the invitations but we and they didn't feel that would be right as we've done most of the planning and paying ourselves - and I love getting all the RSVPs coming in to us!

I think if you really don't want to include your in-laws on the invites, the only diplomatic way to do it is the traditional one, rather than trying to come up with some new wording to make it more explicit.

We went with the 'together with their parents' format. Ticks all the boxes plus ignored the added complication of my parents being separated.

H2b's parent's have paid equal to what my Dad has, my mum on the other hand (they are separated both re-married) has not even offered to help let alone contribute to funding! Our invitations just say

Mrs x

&

Mr x

Request the pleasure of your company

at their wedding

on......

We kept it simple!

Going to be tricky when the thank you speeches start!!