Hi, I am looking for some suggestions and advice in relation to deciding my wedding party.
I have two kids from a previous relationship who we want involved in the wedding party as it will be there special day aswell. My oldest will be a mini-bestman alongside my fiances closest friend. My youngest will be the page boy/ring bearer. Initially we had chosen three flower girls, although we have decided that is too much. My parent has told me how my niece will be expecting to be my flower girl. Also my nephew, who is also my godson would be an usher. Both are my sisters children. However, more recently we are thinking the only children to be involved in wedding party would be my own children to make it extra special for them. I dont want to upset any of the kids though, who will be at the wedding regardless. I just feel it will be more special for my children if they were only children in wedding party, but I do feel torn.
The grooms side: bestman, groomsman and ushers are pretty much decided. He has been able to decide this on his own.
My bridesmaids, however, I feel are being pretty much dictated to me. I have the potential of 5, but I would prefer only 3, my top three would be my two best friends, and cousin. These are the ones I go to about anything. They pick my clothes for nights out (im rubbish at that) and know what kind of hen doo i would like.
The other two are my sister and my fiances sister. Who, if I am honest, are my least favourite. I would be asking his sister purely for the fact its his sister. I would be asking my sister purely for the fact she is my sister. I have been through a hard time with my health over past few years and my preferred 3 bridesmaids are the ones who supported me. However, i would have my sister.So my mum says she would not be happy if I did not have my sister, and hung up the phone on me. My mother-in-law-to-be pretty much said the same thing, though in a nicer way.
Both have said I should drop my friends and have only the two sisters. Although I get the feeling its very much how it will appear to others and tradition.
I mentioned to my fiance about having his sister as a best woman and he said not a chance. He has spoken to the parents and told them it will be my decision. But I dont know how to do it fairly.
Is there anyway I can include them all without them neccessarily being my bridesmaids. I had suggested they could be witnesses. Although I was quickly told that it is the best man and maid of honour. I understand traditionally that should be done but I am not fussed about tradition.
Is there an option to have four or is that too much? We have 80 day guests, 200 night guests.The parents opinion is seriously winding me up.
