Wedding pics on Facebook

What about word of mouth? Mention to a few people that you would prefer that photos are not posted until the following day and ask them to pass it on to other guests. Tell 1 or 2 people in each camp of guests (families, friends etc) and I am sure the word will get out. Just make sure youstate that it is OK after that though.

Alternatively could you ask the vicar/registrar to mention something at the begining of the service?

We are putting this on our order of service:

We would be delighted to see any photo’s that you take today, however we do ask that you refrain from uploading images onto social media until after 8:30pm so that our evening guests have had the opportunity to arrive and experience our day for themselves.

Maybe get your ushers to tell people?

We put this on our order of service:

Photographs

The Bride and Groom would be delighted to see any photos you take today – they can be emailed or uploaded to the wedding website; however, please wait until after the ceremony to start snapping! Guests are also asked to refrain from uploading images to Facebook until after 9pm when all the evening guests have had chance to arrive and experience ? and ?’s big day for themselves. Thank you.

And the celebrant mentioned it in her address to the guests before I arrived.

If you change your privacy settings so that you have to approve posts, it only prevents photos from being posted on your page. They will still show on the poster's page, so any shared facebook friends will still be able to see them.

A friend of mine recently got married and didn't want any photos to be put onto Facebook for a week after the wedding, so she asked the Vicar to explain this in his introduction.

The thing that's often overlooked is that they are your guests and you can tell them not to.

Generally they'll respect your request

You could disable your account for the day. You can always reactivate it the day after

I also thought about this - it's not that important to me but it is to my OH - we've both set our FB accounts to approve photos we are tagged in which should block a lot of it.

We didn't want an order of service and so we're asking the wedding coordinator to mention it in their address after the guests move into the ceremony room - or for the registra to request guests take no pictures during the service - the second option appeals more because i think the guests will assume it's a new law or something for civil ceremonies to have nooone but the wedding photographer take pics. After the ceremony is over, i'm not fussed. I'm hoping most people will take pics during the day but theyrealistically probably wont upload them until the next day after they've had a good look through.

It's been mentioned on many threads and the general responses i've seen is that it may come across as a bit stuck up to make the request in the order of service (although you're perfectly entitled to - it is your day and they are your guests). Its something i imagine many celebs have done to keep OK and Hello Magazine happy!

That said, you've invited your guests because you want them to be there with you and so it's important not to be offended if they do take pics - it will only be to celebrate with you, not to spoil the surprise for the evening guests.

I wish I had thought about this before we got married, we got married at 2.00pm and by 3.15pm my mum had put photos onto facebook. By 4.00pm my sister had also put photos on there. Was not a happy bunny as people who we're coming to the evening reception saw them.

What the... How can it be 'stuck up'?

Weird.

Loads of our guests said to me it was a great idea to do that so that it didn't 'spoil' it for t'others.

This wouldn't stop mutual friends from seeing the pictures if they just put them on and don't tag you.

Thanks for all the suggestions, I think the best way for me will be word of mouth and also changing my settings on Facebook. It shouldn't be too bad as we're getting married at 3.45pm and then our reception is starting at 5. FSIL is most likely candidate for doing it as she treats Facebook as a diary, so ill get OH to have a word with her!

The people you think might do it - tell them! I completely agree with you, more than happy for pics to go on Facebook but NOT on the day. Changing your settings won't stop the people uploading them, just them appearing on your timeline. H2b's bro and his fiancée put EVERYTHING (and I mean everything) on Facebook so he's going to have to ask them to refrain until the next day. None of my friends/family are as bad so I might not bother saying anything to mine.

Yeah i'd say try and get the word around whether it's the ushers or yourselves before hand, i'm sure people will respect your wishes
Changing your settings will let you approve it before it's allowed on your timeline but won't stop it appearing on friends timeline who's posting it, so really best trying to stop them uploading til after that time
Also 9 days..you must be excited!!

We'll put it in order of service and have the vicar and/or master of ceremonies to remind people. I might also put something on our private event facebook page (argh!) we have for the wedding

Do be aware that there is a setting on the new iphone that autosends any photo taken straight to FB.........you can switch this off although it is buried in the menus...so your guests may accidently reveal more than you want.......

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Do not click if easily offended

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This link is an example of the autosend feature and not indicative of any wedding photos!!!!!!!!!!!!

Probably a crazy idea, but to all your wedding guests who are also your facebook friends.... why not send them all a big group facebook message the day before?!

Something along the lines of 'we are so excited to see you all to celebrate our big day tomorrow. Any issues in the morning please call best an Howard on ......... and he'll be happy to help. Can we make one little request that no photos of our wedding day are posted on facebook until the evening is well underway and our evening guests have arrived thanks everyone, see you tomorrow!! (oohhh feels weird to be writing that!...)

The main culprits will most definitely read that, and if people dont see it they probably woukdnt upload that day anyway. Think that's what we'll be doing but then our day is pretty informal anyway.

Disabling your account will stop them going on your profile, as would opting to approve tags, but the only way to let people know that you dont want them on their is to tell them. because of course im sure some of your friends are linked to other friends etc, so if they put them on their timeline, then they are there for people to see regardless of them being on your profile.

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A few Vicars have stated to guests not to do this without the permission of the couple first.

TBH most people with an IQ over 100 will refrain from doing so if you simply ask them.