Wedding planning group on FB...rant

I'm on that group but to be honest it doesn't bug me really, because I just figure that when planning a wedding, emotions about EVERYTHING get heightened......

It's all part of wedding stress to my eyes?

Just leave ?

2015 brides are good - they have one off topic thread and if you post on the wall anything OT its deleted

I just think it's a massive shame cos I find so many useful ideas and stuff on there but lately all the posts on my news feed are off topic so I end up having to scroll through the page for ages to read the good posts.
I get that wedding planning is stressful and sometimes you need to vent but I usually use my bms, OH, family etc. for that!

Aye but some of us- like me, don't have those outlets to vent. And it's always easier to do it to strangers. And these strangers are in the same boat, experienceing the same heightened emotions.

But having said that I only post weddingy stuff myself anyways....

Sorry that you find peoples' real situations depressing and that they are distracting you from important stuff such as what you want for your wedding. Some people have no where else to turn to for advice, and yes some are attention seekers but its not your place to judge so just leave.

Rarely is someone blunter than me but I think you have achieved it on this occasion ? as igbmn has stated above, just leave if you dislike it that much?! This is a non issue.

You came on a wedding forum to moan about people moaning about things on a wedding FB page? Ok.

Just leave

I was in that group a while ago and people were complaining about it regularly. Lots of the members feel the same way you do!

You're better off here on Hitched! The other thing I found odd was that only one "recommended photographer" was allowed in the group and she was pushed to all the brides. I joined as it's my 25th anniversary next year and am planning for that. However, the people who wanted to protect the "recommended photographer" didn't like me being in the group cos I kept helping brides and the other photographer didn't!

I run the 2015 brides page along with a few others and we are very particular about OT posts as we know they clog up peoples news feed and it gets annoying. For this reason we made a thread which everyone posts onto which anyone can unfollow if they get bored or are one of them people who don't care about other peoples issues (like you appear to be).

Part of me believes the OT side of things is beneficial as it can make you feel closer and help friendships develop. And as others have said some people just really don't have anywhere to turn or may not want to discuss things like wedding doubts or whatever with people in 'real life'. But at the same time a wedding page is what it says....a wedding page!

But yeah, if you don't like it surely you know where the 'leave group' button is? You probably won't be missed!

Yeah I find it annoying ... so I've stopped following it ... simple! I do wonder why these people feel its necessary to over share non-wedding stuff ... It's very attention seeking at times but some people just like to get sympathy from randoms rather than wedding advice ...

I used to be a member on a few wedding groups on FB but I left most as they did my head in. Constantly posting about stupid stuff, most weren't there to help other brides or ask for advice, they just wanted to show off everything they'd done (in a bitchy kind of way) or get opinions on something - that's all well and good but you don't necessarily stick your head in a fire if someone told you to do that. So you shouldn't go and change a colour scheme if you were told yellow doesn't go with blue, if you've gone with it in the first place the. Obviously you're happy with it.

The latest annoying habit ... posting ac screen shot of "cute" texts from your OH saying he loves you etc .... unnecessary!

I completely get where the OP is coming from, I'd find that annoying, too, if it was a site for wedding planning - IMO FB groups are generally there for one reason... and this one's there for ideas and wedding planning!

However, I also agree that complaining on here won't help anything and that leaving the group is the best way to get away from it and find somewhere more suitable to your needs. It is a shame it's not the place you remembered but I'm sure there are other places now (as mentioned above)

Like here people become friends through wedding planning and like to discuss all aspects of their lives with each other. I don't see a problem with that? I don't like the amount of baby posts tbh but I can just skip past them.

This ^^^^

Unfollow the group. I don't even get why your telling us about this 'problem'!

I think the OP has a good and valid point - you join a group so that wedding chat appears on your news feed and then all of a sudden you have conversations popping up on your wall about how Aunty Trish's dog has been in to have his nails done. It's irrelevant.

I'm one who likes to chat about Aunty Trish's dog, and around here I do so on the OT threads - I think the point is that there's no separation on the fb group and you can't have one without the other - whereas the OP likes to be involved in wedding chat but not the in's and out's of other peoples lives!

I'm not sure where you live but there is a great fb page called Kent Wedding swap swop shop. The admins created a forum page separately for ot conversations and another page for those brides already married. The page is for a Kent brides and suppliers but as a bride you will find lots of wedding support and ideas.

leave the other group. If it's not helping you leave it.

Good luck x

That's not the only reason people join though, I don't really need any help planning but would like to make new friends so don't mind the odd OT post.

Haha this made me laugh. We all have real life situations to deal with so why would I wanna have to spend my time reading other peoples? I find it hard to believe that people have nowhere except facebook groups to turn to! Especially if you're getting married, talk to your OH!! Besides 'What I want for my wedding' is the whole point of the group! It's about brides discussing their wedding plans, not other peoples OT dramas! It's like making a page about loving horses and spending the whole time disucussing what your favourite song is! If it's not wedding related then post it on another group, and trust me there's plenty of groups to join just to meet new people or share problems!

I have left the group but I wanted to say how annoyed I was cos I got so many great tips and ideas from there. Shame it just got ruined by people who feel that the whole world should know about there problems.

Maybe I seem like a *** but I'm kinda a 'no drama' girl who keeps my problems private and doesn't want the whole world knowing my life story!

I wrote the post to vent, and to see how other people felt. If you don;t agree or have anything worthwhile to say then 'I don't even get why you're commenting' ? LOL

Hang on I'm guna rant again...

So really I think it's just plain rude to leave a comment like 'this is a non-issue' or 'not worth posting this problem'. I find people who post things like this to be utterly obnoxious! I'm sorry but why is your opinion so much more important than mine? Why do you get to decide what's worth discussing and what's not! I often read people's posts on here and I either don't agree with them or think they're silly but I have the good grace to keep my mouth shut!

I just wanted to point out that I posted a couple of weeks ago looking for help with my bridesmaid dresses and I got no replies whatsoever, yet this thread has managed to get people's attention! I think that says a lot about some of the brides on here.

I think some posters really need to think if what they're posting is of any relevance or use to the OP or if it's just a spiteful, sarcastic or obnoxious comment then perhaps they could go take it out on their poor, unfortunate H2Bs.

Rant over

P.s not I don't mean all the people who have posted, A lot of the brides on here are very helpful!

In your own words you're 'ranting' and 'venting' about something not directly related to planning a wedding, and this is the very thing you're ranting about! This is very hypocritical and you've clearly touched a nerve with more than one hitcher now, is this what you set out to do? You've also drawn attention to yourself and this post, yet you're ranting about attention seekers. I think you should follow your own advice and let this one lie now.

So I'm ranting about a wedding planning fb group in a wedding planning forum? yeah so totally unrelated. Ugh I was guna write a long post about this but I can't be bothered. Let's face it I've touched a nerve with people on here who are the very people who clog up those groups with their drama. Just accept that some people don;t wanna hear about your problems...

You are quite right, we dont want to hear about your problems, well spotted.

Run along now dearie. The irony of this post is clearly lost on you.

Ok wow you girls really are vile. I don't really get why I am not allowed to have an opinion on something that has annoyed me? I put in the title that it was a rant, if you don't like rants then don't read posts entitled, RANT! Why in god's name do you feel that you have the right to have an opinion on EVERYTHING!?? Seriously, please tell me why you even felt the need to comment on this in the first place? I'm sorry but I really find people like you to be an absolute scurge on sites like this, sitting on your computer feeling like you have the right to comment on everyones post even if you have nothing useful to say? You stupid, sarcastic bitches.

Oh you are too funny. You're slinging names around yet we are vile? Bless you.

Yeah, guess thats what bullies push you to, and don't worry I know I'm not the first poster to have been subjected to your lovely comments mini. Luckily for me I have only spent so much time on here because I've been sick. I guess I had just better get back to really planning my wedding with my real life friends and family instead of spending 24/7 behind a computer screen seeking out peoples posts to write provocative comments on. Shame that people like you really ruin sites like this.

Oh and I'd just like to say a big (sarcastic) thanks for all the real wedding help or advice I asked for which you never bothered to respond to, guess it wasn't juicy enough for you to get a rise out of me...

Well that's one for the signature isn't it! How exciting, my fame has spread!

I wasn't aware if you asking me specifically for any help in the past, so sorry if I missed a post where you were looking for my guidance. As for general wedding help and advice, as you can see from my post count, there's plenty I've dished out , I'm sorry that you haven't been on the reviving end of it.

"You stupid, sarcastic bitches"

I LOVE this! It's going to get you far. Mini - another award winning signature in the making?!

Is it just me or is the word bully starting to lose it's meaning?!

There's a name for it when you repeat a word over and over and over and it loses it's meaning...what us it?

There's a name for it when you repeat a word over and over and over and it loses it's meaning...what us it?

Semantic satiation! (I did have to google though!)