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MadamRed
Beginner April 2017

Wedding Report - warning, LONG

MadamRed, 16 April, 2017 at 18:28 Posted on Planning 0 16

We had a fantastic day, and not going on honeymoon for a while, so I thought I'd fill in the time by writing my wedding report while I still remember everything.

The day before

My MoH and makeup stylist picked me up at 08:30. We loaded up the car with as much as we could, and they took me to a café at the Marina for a delicious champagne breakfast – pastries, eggs Benedict with smoked salmon, champagne and a pot of tea. Afterwards, we went over to a local hotel to chill out in the spa for a few hours. The package included lunch, a facial, and a back and leg massage. We headed over to the wedding venue feeling very relaxed and chilled-out.

OH brought the centrepieces from the florist over to the venue, so us girls got checked into our room and unloaded the cars. Two of the other BMs came over with their boyfriends, the groomsmen joined us, and we got the rooms set up. Once we were all set up, we popped down to the restaurant for some dinner. The poor manager looked terrified when we walked in (12 of us!) and asked for a couple of tables for 6, but he worked really hard to get us all seated and fed. The chef even brought the order for my table forward so that I could get back upstairs and started on my beauty treatments.

OH, the BMs, and the men left, and I headed up to the hotel room with my MoH and makeup stylist. We got waxed and our nails done over some nice chocs and a bottle of sparkling rose, then turned in at about 1am.

The wedding day

We got up at 07:30 (ugh!) and headed downstairs for breakfast. OH and the groomsmen arrived with the bridesmaids at 10:00, for door games. These are a Chinese tradition in which the BMs make the groomsmen do fun challenges to prove his love for the bride.

In our case, the games started with a fun version of “Mr & Mrs”. OH had to answer 20 questions about me and our relationship. For every question he got wrong, he had to do 5 push-ups. He did pretty well – 14 out of 20 – but by the end he was pretty tired lol. We then got the groomsmen involved for a “jelly bean roulette” in which they each had to try one of the Bean Boozled jelly beans. All of them got “normal” flavours like peach, except for OH, who got vomit flavour!

Next challenge was for them to put their feet in a bowl of ice water and attempt to pick out sesame seeds using only their toes, which resulted in some hilarious reactions. The venue very kindly arranged to provide the ice water and clear it away again. Finally, we put them into tutus and 1980s’ jewellery (over their suits), and made them all dance to Barbie Girl.

The photographer had arrived just in time to capture the door games, so we had chance for a quick chat before I started getting ready. Two of the BMs headed back to another hotel to get MIL ready, and the men went to get ready in the honeymoon suite. MoH, my sister, and I got ready at a leisurely pace in one of the other hotel rooms.

Just after 1pm, the other BMs arrived and helped with the final touches. The registrars arrived and went over the final details, then it was time to go.

Poor OH was ever so nervous, he could hardly get his words out at first. He relaxed once my sister did the first reading (The Day the Saucers Came, by Neil Gaiman, which got everyone laughing). When he started his vows, he only got 2 lines in before people started to realise they were being rick-rolled and started laughing again. I did my vows, and we had the second reading (a selection of segments from Ready Player One, by Ernest Cline – cue more laughter).

It was quite chilly outside, so after the ceremony we had drinks and canapes in the bar adjacent to the ceremony room, then went outside for a few quick photographs. Our photographer specialises in reportage photography, so we only had 3 or 4 posed shots. After an hour or so, we went in for the speeches and 3-course meal (delicious!). During the break after the meal, I had some photos with my BMs and then went to get changed into my cheongsam.

The evening party started with a surprise for all of our guests – a Chinese lion dance! I was worried about how it would go down with OH’s family, but they loved it. We cut the cake with our Legend of Zelda Master Sword, and had the first dance, then got the party started. Poor old OH got very drunk, thanks to my MoH and others buying him tequila slammers and Jagerbombs. There are photos of him saying “goodnight” to my Dad while dressed in just his suit trousers and an usher’s waistcoat!

The DJ was awesome, even playing some of the J-Rock tracks that I requested. At the end of the night, he finished the party with New York, New York, then handed the microphone over to my MoH, who hit “play” on a certain Tenacious D track…thankfully, all of our family had left by then!

We haven't got any photos from the photographer yet, but in the meantime here's a picture of the lion dance from my photographer (sorry, it's a bit large):

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Latest activity by MadamRed, 25 April, 2017 at 21:15
  • Stephisaur
    Beginner April 2017
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    Congratulations again MadamRed ❤️

    Sounds like a fab day, love the dragon! ?

    Update us with more piccies when you get them! ?

    xxx

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  • 2BMrsC
    Beginner May 2017
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    Lovely report MadamRed, sounds like a fabulous day! Looking forward to seeing some more photos when you have them!

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  • RomanticBlueDiamonds624
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    It sounds like you had an amazing day - I can't wait to see some more pictures! Congratulations!

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  • Jayne E
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    Congratulations madam and Mr red I've so been waiting​ for this. Sounds amazing and i will be waiting for more photos (not so patiently). X

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  • DreamsComeTrue2015
    Beginner July 2017
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    Yey! I've been looking forward to your wedding report for ages! It sounds like you had an amazing day and I love all the wee nerdy references you've put in there!

    Can you send me the quotes you used from 'Ready Player One' please? I love that book and I'd really like to hear how you fitted it into your day!

    Also - share pictures! We want to see how beautiful you looked!

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  • K
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    I can almost hear you smiling as you tell this - it all sounds so much fun! Congratulations xx

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  • Montysmum
    Beginner March 2018
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    This sounds like most fun wedding ever!! Please share Pictures!!

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  • S
    Beginner May 2017
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    Congratulations. It sounds like you had an amazing day.

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  • laurafish
    Beginner July 2016
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    Congratulations, sounds like a fantastic day, so much fun Smiley smile Loved reading this, looking forward to photos!

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  • Mrs_Conduct
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    MadamRed it sounds like you had an amazing day!! I love that Tenacious D was the last track!! Although I now have it in my head and I'm trying not to sing out loud in the office...

    xx

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  • MadamRed
    Beginner April 2017
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    Thanks everyone. It was an amazing day (even though 6 of my guests decided not to turn up at the last minute, 5 of whom were all supposed to be sitting on the same table!). Apparently, we get the edited photographs in approx. 3 weeks, but in the meantime there are a couple of pics from our friends at the bottom (sorry some of them are a bit squished - don't know why that's happened!)

    DreamsComeTrue, I put together 3 separate excerpts:

    “We talked for hours. Long, rambling conversations about everything under the sun. Spending time with her was intoxicating. We seemed to have everything in common. We shared the same interests. We were driven by the same goal. She got all of my jokes. She made me laugh. She made me think. She changed the way I saw the world. I’d never had such a powerful, immediate connection with another human being before.”

    “As we continued to talk, going through the motions of getting to know each other, I realized that we already did know each other, as well as any two people could. We’d known each other for years, in the most intimate way possible. We’d connected on a purely mental level. I understood her, trusted her, and loved her as a dear friend.”

    “She grinned. "Don't you want to build a huge interstellar spaceship, load it full of videogames, junk food, and comfy couches, and then get the hell out of here?" "I'm up for that, too," I said. "if it means I get to spend the rest of my life with you.”

    MissConduct, yep very much NSFW lol. I think my Gran would have had a heart attack if she'd still been there!

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  • Stephisaur
    Beginner April 2017
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    MadamRed you look so beautiful!!

    I love how the companion cube turned out!!

    X

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  • MetalBride
    Beginner April 2018
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    I lolled so loud I made the dog bark at the part where your guests got Rick rolled :-)

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  • TigerKitty
    Beginner September 2018
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    It's lovely!! Thanks for sharing!!

    We're pretty much like you pair, just that I'm the Hong Kong Chinese while he is the English+Scottish.

    He hasn't proposed yet but we do agree on starting planning. (Can't see him doing anything yet...)

    I don't have any family nor my potential BMs in the UK. So I'll have to do my part on my own pretty much... Is there a tradition of the groom must not see the bride in white until at the venue? I don't want to go trying-ons on my own... but he refused to talk about the dress or even look at the online pics... saying he's not allowed as per the rituals...

    And if so how to keep those Chinese traditions such as the door games and tea ceremony?

    Sorry to be asking lots of silly questions, but I know nothing about wedding in the UK... although I'm getting "professional" as a bridesmaid in HK for 5 friends...

    Thanks for your help!!

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  • DreamsComeTrue2015
    Beginner July 2017
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    You look gorgeous! And thanks for the excerpts. We might pinch the last one to put on the back of our order of service!

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  • 2BMrsC
    Beginner May 2017
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    You look absolutely stunning and glowing with happiness MadamRed! ?

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  • MadamRed
    Beginner April 2017
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    Hi!

    Yes, traditionally the groom shouldn't see the bride in her dress until the ceremony. For dress shopping, could you maybe go with his mum or some friends? If you're having bridesmaids but they're coming from abroad, maybe you could ask wedding dress shops if you can take a laptop and Skype with your bridesmaids so they can see you trying dresses on?

    We had a hotel wedding, so we did the door games in the ceremony room in the hotel at about 10am. My BMs and I just wore nice outfits. My husband wore a Pac-Man suit which the best man had bought for his stag do, and the groomsmen all wore their wedding suits. Then we all got changed in separate rooms after the door games were finished.

    My FIL is severely disabled, and my MIL hates being the centre of attention, so she asked us not to do the tea ceremony. I think I've seen other examples on websites like Offbeat Bride where the tea ceremony has been done after the wedding ceremony but before the meal, so that might be an option?

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