Wedding stress already

Its as plain and simple as its Your wedding and you should marry in exactly the way you want, you are getting married to one another not anyone else.

I do not think its an unreasonable request at all to have an intimate ceremony!

Hi Sam, congratulations!!!!!!

Honestly, start as you mean to go on. From what I've learnt, if you start letting family have an opinion or alter your decisions at all, they won't stop until your basically having their wedding.

I would politely let them all know that your wishes are to have a small ceremony. Your day your way!!!

You will probably feel awful for putting some of them in their place, but if you don't, it justs gets worse. Plan what you want, book it, then tell them ;-)

good luck with all the arrangements and happy planning!

Xx

Remember that it's your's and your fiance's day and nobody elses so have what you want. I have quite a large family but we're limited to 60 for the day and have a lot of close friends so we are inviting parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins who we're close to to the ceremony and wedding breakfast then have the rest of the family coming to celebrate with us in the evening. Luckily mine have all been fine about it, but then I've not really given them a choice! Good luck with your planning and congratulations on your engagement

Hi, firstly congratulations! Secondly, do not worry at all about what your family want, it's YOUR day and they should realise it's what you're comfortable with! My friend went through exactly the same thing, where 20 became 50 which became 60 which became 100 by the evening! She got really stressed out about it as originally she'd wanted a destination wedding for 2! If both you and your hubby are in agreement about wanting a small ceremony, stand your ground!

I was a bridesmaid last year for my friend, there were only 16 people at the ceremony and only me and best man weren't family. They then had a very large party in the evening. I think a few of her Aunts etc. were put out but it what they both wanted and they don't regret sticking to their guns and getting the wedding of their dreams. If it is what you want go for it. You might have to explain your choices to some family member but it is your wedding it should be what you want.

Hi. Funny enough I went to a Sam's wedding a couple of days ago that did just this. She felt much more comfortable with just the immediate family plus partners and children, and grandparents. Then invited everyone else to the eve. By attending the eve it still felt like you went to the wedding as you were still celebrating and seeing the bride in the dress etc. Everyone seemed to have a great time. Also, meant they could afford a stunning venue they wouldn't have otherwise. Good luck. It seems that whatever happens someone doesn't like something you do, so remain focused on what you 2 want and perhaps try to suggest compromises. Such as throwing bouquet, cutting cake etc in eve so family dont miss out; having a photographer into the eve so you still get family photos and so on x

It's not what I would want personally, but I don't think there is anything wrong with a smaller, more intimate ceremony at all. I think it's important that right from the start you are clear with your family that it's 'your' wedding, not theirs, and stick to your guns, so that you get the day you want! And Congratulations on the engagement!

Thanks everyone. Decided if I stand my ground and be upfront from the start everyone will just have to like it! Good luck everyone with ur planning xx

Yep stick yo your guns!If you dont you'll regret it and be very stressed

good luck xx

Congratulations first of all!

We got engaged Christmas Day last year and from the get go said very similar to you, just siblings, parents, grandparents a few close friends and uncles/aunties for the ceremony & wedding breakfast- including me and boyo that is less than 50 people.

No one has been surprised or shocked when I have told them they aren't invited to the 'whole' wedding- people understand how expensive it is- although the cost isn't our main motivation for keeping it small!!

Lots of luck with your planning, it will be fine :-)